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Submitted by number5 on Fri, 09/23/2011 - 12:23pm

:O I will make this short and to the point. I am a GF, have been told will never be his wife. He is not "good" at marriage. However,he acts like I am his wife. He is broke paying a huge amount of CS for 2 BC from 2 BM. We have them every other weekend. I have to pay for everything. I cook and clean up after them. He won't do anything. He says I'm the one who likes everything clean and organized!! well, I sure as hell don't want food and grime all over my house. I am so happy when one of the kids doesn't want to come over. He doesn't buy XMAS or Birthday gifts for them . He says their Mom's can because he is broke. I cannot have them come over on Holidays and not have anything for them. Why do I feel like I am responsible for their happiness? I am anything but happy. My BF is only nice to be around when he has had at least four beers. Most of his money goes to gas in his truck and his alcohol. I have offered for him to drive my car, that gets 40MPG VS. his F150 that gets 17MPG. He cannot drive my car because it would bruise is over inflated ego. I drive 12 miles to work. He drives 50 miles each way. He brings home 520 per week. 200 per week goes to gas and 100 to alcohol and his eating at work x2 meals and snack per day. He has gained at least 75 pounds since we have been together. Our sex life is anything but sexy. I don't want to sound stuck up. But I have maintained myself well through exercise and Diet. My question is this... How do I leave?

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Bojangles's picture

Submitted by Bojangles on Fri, 09/23/2011 - 1:13pm

Wow I think the question is how do you not leave! Just tell him that you want different things out of life (nice home, marriage, financial security, enjoying time together without the need for alcohol!), your relationship is not making you happy and you want to end it. Then either you pack your things and leave or he packs his, depending on whose name your home is in.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 09/23/2011 - 3:35pm

Better question. How do you stay? Or... how do you not leave? Or ..... why would you even be there long enough to his POST after typing your original post?

On the your house/his house question. If it is his house go, go now, go far and don't look back.
Your house .... next time he leaves for beer or work have the locks changed put his shit on the curb, call his cell and tell him to come get his shit before it is taken from the curb.

You can not overcome his status as a male of no character, he is no man and I will not refer to him as one. Though I am sure you are a positive influence in the lives of his children you can not fix his tragic flaws or even minimize their impact on his children.

He provides nothing redeeming to your relationship and even if he did want to or would marry you why would you marry this worthless POS?

Move on to your own life. There are true men out there who would relish the chance to make a life and equity marriage with you.

Good luck.

Ex4life's picture

Submitted by Ex4life on Fri, 09/23/2011 - 4:24pm

"Run Forest Run"

Then watch those braces that are holding you back break free and then YOU WILL BE FREE!!

workinthruthetoughstuff's picture

Submitted by workinthrutheto... on Fri, 09/23/2011 - 8:06pm

Take a deep breath and ask yourself why you haven't left yet? What is holding you back? What do you want to happen? Where do you want to be? Focus on your wants and needs, then make a plan. Whether it be for you to pack up and get out, or to keep him from coming back.

'you will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be'

Good luck to you.