DH has been DREADING Father's Day. His usual just doesn't want to deal with SD19 in any sort of manner and he knew she would be calling. And she did. Bright and early Sunday morning. Twice. DH didn't answer either time. Then said, I guess I need to call her back. I'm not sure of his reasoning with that, but thats what he chose to do. (eyeroll) 

So I'm just doing my Sunday morning thing, laundry, cleaning (we had firiends over the night before..) so picking up stuff, etc. DH said, SD19 asked to come over today. OK. Not surprised and I really didn't care. So my day continued. A began cleaning and packing our camper as we have a trip planned next weekend. SD19 eventually showed up and their visit seemed to be going well as I was (intentionally) in and out with camper stuff. I figured some time alone would benefit them both. I finished up and came inside to find they were diiscussing her mom, her current living situation and so on. 

She recently had a big falling out with her BM. She's a very toxic person and forever it seems SD19 has constantly held a torch for this POS but she continues to be disappointed. Its been very sad to watch over the years, but it is what it is. I keep thinking she'll eventually learn but her need for acceptance by her BM is so strong and BM completely manipulates her.

So then she moved on to her living situation which she is still being totally controlled by her roommate and her mother. SD19 and her roommate and the roommates mother all work in the same plant. They make very decent money considering SD19 quit highschool. Their rent is minimal, they bought a crap car which they were splitting the cost of, but now Roommate refuses to drive so SD19 got stuck with the entire car note plus insurance. BUT SHE DRIVES ROOMMATE EVERYWHERE. To work, to the store, everywhere she AND HER BOYFRIEND want to go. Roommates BF also lives with them, doesn't work, has 0 income. Yet SD19 pays half the bills, half the rent and ALL of the costs for the car. Now the car needs brakes, has a power steering issue, the muffler is really loud. Again, its a piece of crap. The car is in the roommates mothers name but SD19 pays $400 for the car and $200 for insurance a month. This kid is getting royally screwed and SD19 seems to finally be figuring this out. In her words, I never have any money but Roommate always has money.

Well, of sourse she does!!! SD19 is paying for everything! Including covering for a deadbeat guy to live with them. Then she says, Yeah Roommate plans to get pregnant in August and wants to moove BF's littel brother into the house as well. Supposedly BF and little brother make their living by selling Xanax.. WHAT??!! 

DH was liviid. My jaw was on the floor. Yes, this kid is very naive. Its sad. I knew she would figure it out eventually but WOW she's really being taken advantage of. 

So DH told her she needed to get out of there. And I agree. BUT and this is where I took over the conversation. Should she choose to come back. She WILL keep her job, she WILL finish her program to get her diploma or obtain her GED and there are rules to follow in our home. She is hesitant to move back home and I understand that and she's also worried about losing her "friendship" with Roommate. DH tried to explain to her that they are using her but I'm not quite sure it sunk in. Maybe it did..I don't know.

So we'll see and she asked if she could come over again next weekend DH told her we were camping and offered her to join us. I knew it was coming. And honestly I'm okay with it. It will be a good chance for she and I to talk one on one. After she left DH said, That was okay to invite her? And I told him yes. A little delay asking me, But I know where his thoughts were with it and its just a weekend trip not far from home.

So I'm a little anxious as my Bios are currently at home. BD20 should be returning to campus in August which will free up a room and BS19 will be leaving for school which is out of state in January. My bios do not care for how SD19 has treated us over the last 2 years so I don't know what their reaction will be to all of this. SD19 said and did some pretty raunchy stuff. I want to help her but I'm very guarded. I just hope DH doesn't offer her the world because she made some bad decisions...No Free Rides!!!!

And to think I just toasted a celebratory "We're almost empty nesters!!!" the night before with friends. Totally jinxed myself...