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Another Room for Baby Problem

Siferra's picture

Submitted by Siferra on Wed, 09/07/2011 - 5:23pm

I've been enjoying reading everybody's responses to vanrocksout's post about keeping a bedroom for stepkids. I have a similar problem to vent about 

We have 4 bedrooms: Master, SS6’s and two roommates. I’m also pregnant, due in February. I’ve told each of the roommates we don’t intend to kick them out right away, but it’s going to be super awkward. The master bedroom is huge so we plan to keep the baby with us for the first several months, but eventually one of the roommates will have to move out. Problem is, neither one is likely to be able to do so.

Roommate 1 just moved here from out of state 3 months ago, and has been completely unable to find a job. She’s running low on money and is going to start to get desperate soon.

Roommate 2 moved in with us because she was staying with her ex-husband’s mother. She only makes $9 an hour so she’s unlikely to move out any time soon.

Honestly, both of them get on my nerves. I can’t imagine anything I’d rather do less than have Roommate 2 around when I’m a new mother. But, my husband is good friends with her and it’s a zero chance that he’ll force her out.

I just wish there was a better solution!

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Thu, 09/08/2011 - 9:22am

I totally agree. Are these roommates paying you rent at all? If not, say they need to room in the same room togehter. THAT will get their asses in gear. See if you can find some bunk beds. Smile

It is YOUR house and you have been gracious enough. Some times people need a swift kick in the pants. They might be hurt but it will pass!

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 09/07/2011 - 7:47pm

Is your husband your husband first or a good friend first?
I like the idea of by next February you will need roomate# room for your baby as a nursery. So at that time they will have to room in together.

If DH doesn't like that idea, he can move in with his son permenently.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Thu, 09/08/2011 - 9:21am

Maybe both your roommates can find an income based apartment and move in together!!

I feel your pain as I was going through a similar situation last year when I was pregnant. We had a regular roommate in our "spare" room (skids share a room) and THEN my very gracious FDH had a coworker who broke up with his live-in gf and needed a place to stay for a "few weeks". Few weeks turned into five months.

We ended up "kicking out" both roommates. We had to tell the coworker that we just couldn't have him there anymore. Our small house was cramped already then we were adding baby stuff and it was ridiculous and stressful. The original roommate planned to move out in November, then December, then January (was due end of Feb) and he kept procrastinating...ended up staying until mid February. Basically I was so stressed oout about not being able to get baby's room ready and our house being in such a crappy state from not having a place to put things (rooomate took over our family room too), that I blew up at FDH one day about it all and the procrastination. Roommate was hurt for awhile and thought I hated him but it all blew over and everything is fine.

Bottom line is you have to get your DH on the same page as you. If he's not understanding your need to "nest" you will have some issues going into the newborn phase, which is hard enough as it is.

Sit down with both roommates and explain that you just can't have them both there anymore...see if either "bites' or is willing to work with you. You are not a halfway house.