Seriously, I HATE mother's day. The LAST thing I need is a day dedicated to reminding me of the strained relationship with my own mother and that I'm not a real mom. Sure, I help raise quasi-SS17 during the entire school year as BM lives several states away...but I'm not a real mom. In the past, BF/DP has tried to do something nice like take the family out for lunch or a casual dinner. Quasi-SS17 just uses that opportunity to try to hurt me with the she's not my mom type talk, or the not-so subtle saying the word dad before all conversations, as if to exclude me. So, for the last few years, Mother's day is completely ignored. It's not that I expect a F&#%ing parade, but perhaps not having to do the laundry, floors, yard work, etc for the day would be nice. OR, even a "thank you for everything you do."

Don't get me wrong, BF/DP tells me he appreciates me and he isn't sure HOW to handle it because if/when he tries to acknowledge it, quasi-ss17 makes it worse.

This year is an extra special year. I get to finally meet BM. After being with BF/DP for 8 years, it's my lucky day. I've talked to her on the phone briefly before, and we had e-mailed a couple times about 7 years ago. Plus, not only will she and her family be around on Saturday, but BF/DP's mom is coming over to say hi, as well. So, not only do I finally get to meet BM and her daughter and possibly sister, but I get to do it under the scrutiny of the ever critical MIL.

Soooo, aside from my venting, anyone got any tips on meeting BM?