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Does she see nothing wrong with this???

Not My Real Mom's picture

I mentioned in my last blog how SD15 treated me all through this Xmas and New Years. I've not been on speaking terms with her.

Today, DH asked if I still had receipts to her Xmas gifts that she didn't want. I told him that I had the receipts. I also told him she'll get them over my dead body. She's not getting any money back for those gifts that she decided she does not want. Doesn't she see anything wrong with this? I told him she didn't even deserve the gifts she got and I'm tired of putting up with her treatment of me. All he kept saying was that he knows that I put up with a lot. I asked that if he knows, why doesn't he put his foot down with her? I didn't get so much as a thank you for anything from SD. I just got a slap in the face for trying to help her. Needless to say, she is not getting the receipts. I'm returning the items myself. I don't bankroll nasty, miserable people.

Tonight SS15 asked DH for money to go to the movies, again, and he handed it right over to her.

SD'll be 16 in a couple of weeks, along with SS. I'll be glad to throw SS a huge party because he's great and nice and everything she is not. I've very proud of him. I'm disgusted with her. Guess she'll have to turn 16 by herself.

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smurfy1smile's picture

My own BD13 was ungrateful for a few of her gifts so I will take them back and use the money towards other stuff for the household. My kids are very lucky they got as much as they since I have been unemployed since mid-November.

Razamond's picture

so this year I told SD 13 I am thru with her - she was SHOCKED when she found out I was serious and she got nothing from me for Christmas.Needless to say she wsa quite humble the couple of days she was here and she has managed to spend the rest of this week with a cousin. No skin off my teeth 'cause H doesn't seem like her minds. He found out SD was playing H and BM against eachother. She has been telling H that all BM does is yell at her and complain about being broke - then we find out SD has been telling BM that all H does is yell at her. Needless to say H was alittle hurt - the only reason he went to court for custody was because SD told him wshe wanted to live with us full time - I think H was glad to leet her stay with cousin cause she has really hurt him????

Goodstepmom's picture

How about a job for her?? Something on the weekends or maybe something in the house?? She has no respect for money or hard work, i read your first blog and i couldn’t belive it. 400.00 dollar just for x mas??? I had my first job when i was 13 and it didnt kill me lol. We never had money problems at home but my mother and father made sure that we children know that it takes hard work to get money so everybody had to get jobs in the summer vacations , on the holidays and weekends. I first didn’t like it but I was so proud of my self when I had my first check in my hands. It also made me appreciate everything my parents did for me and since then I always had a job.

Not My Real Mom's picture

It doesn't work for SD. DH doesn't want his princess to work because he's afraid she'll get influenced by bad people. I swear he's blind. She is the bad person. A lot of the moms do not like her to hang around their kids anymore. She used to be the kid that every mom wanted her kid to know until they found out how she really acted.

I've had a job since I was 14. I bought both of my own prom dresses and paid for my own proms. My parents didn't have that kind of money and I didn't want to be a burden.

“When all else fails, get a dog.”

disgusted's picture

Good for you!! Don't do a darned thing for or lift a finger to help DH do anything for that brat!! Return her gifts and buy yourself a nice gift!! That is exactly what I would do!! There is no reason that anyone should have to put up with that disrespectful treatment. DH is crazy for letting her treat him like her personal bank account to make with drawals from too!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

BMJen's picture

Screw that brat. She shouldn't get the money for the gifts that she is too good for!!

By the way, I just read your other blog also. If my SD ever spoke to me like that I'd slap her in the mouth, DH be dammned. You wouldn't put up with anyone else in the world treating you, or speaking to you that way. Why would you allow it from her?

Think about it.....would you let your son talk to you that way? Would you let a stranger? Would you let your boss? I bet you said no to all of those. So why allow a kid to treat you that way? Stop it, don't allow that any longer from her.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with this kind of behavior and hurtfullness through the weekend.

Not My Real Mom's picture

Thanks for all your support. Tonight SD15 made it clear that she's failing photography. How can you fail photography? She wants DH to make it all better by emailing the teacher and giving some excuse as to why she didn't do her project during holiday vacation. He actually told her no way. I couldn't believe it. Last week they took a day trip to NYC (before New Years) and she took pictures there. She asked DH to find out from her teacher if she could show those pictures. She was supposed to take pictures of Valley Forge, which is only 2-1/2 miles away from us. She could have done it any time but wanted to hang out with her friends at the mall, etc.

DH could have put his foot down earlier and tell her she couldn't go out until she was done her project but he doesn't take that kind of action. He lets her do whatever she wants. Anyway, at the dinner table, she got angry and asked what kind of parents we were. First of all, I'm not even speaking to her. 2nd, her father should have thought of that before. I am glad he put his foot down but it was too little, too late.

I told DH if I had a say, she would have had that project done before this happened. Whenever I point this out, his only response to me is "whatever!" He doesn't like being told how to raise his kids.

“When all else fails, get a dog.”