What's the next Drama?
Hi. New on here and have been reading posts. Seems I am not alone. Thank Goodness! I thought I was going troppo!
My partner and I have a very loving and strong relationship. Second time around for both of us. I have 2 children 9 and 7, and he has a 6 yr old.
My relationship with my ex is good.
His relationship with his ex...not so good.
It seems that for the past 2 years his ex has used his access to his daughter as a bargaining tool to get what she wants. When it suits her social life, he sees her more, when he questions, or disagrees with her on anything, she stops him from seeing her.
She's not a perfect mother (although are any of us?) but her antics are leaning more towards neglect in my opinion.
I have done my best to provide my stepchild with a loving environment, however I am getting tired of having our plans change at the last minute because she's lost the plot again, or being accused of not caring for her child without reason or explanation.
I love my partner so much, but this whole thing is taking it's toll on our relationship.
I see this little person in the middle and I cry for her. She is Daddys girl, but Mummy is doing her best to spoil that.
Now she says that he can not see her when I am around. Why? I do not know. She simply does not like me. Maybe she is jealous of our relationship and lifestyle. We want all our children to be together, grow together and have fun together. My kids love her too.
When we are all together, we like to enjoy special outings with family and friends. When she is with her mother, she is dumped off at the grandies or someone else whilst Mum and BF go out partying. There are so many things wrong in my situation, I don't even know where to start. I just am peeved that a mother can put herself and her own needs before her child.
My children will always come first in my life, and their wellbeing and health is the most important thing to me.
I don't understand where her head is at. She's just plain selfish.
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Is there a court order for
Is there a court order for visitation?
If so, your SO should show up for his regular pickups and when he is denied access, he needs to call the cops. Most of the time, they can't do anything but they can file a report. Document all of this. After a few times of her denying access, and you have the police reports to back you up, you can file contempt charges against her...and sometimes, this can even lead to a custody change.
BM can only do what she's *allowed* to do to you guys.
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Thanks. Unfortunately no
Thanks. Unfortunately no Formal Orders are in place with the court. Only a parenting plan signed by both parties and by a Justice of the Peace when his divorce was lodged. We have only recently found out that this is worth nothing.
Last night we were bombarded with harrassing text messages. And this is not the first time either. He has kept them all and has applied for Legal Aid to assist him in getting formal orders drawn up. Hopefully she will continue to be stupid enough to keep sending these, so we can show the court what a moron she is. Honestly, she has a screw loose and I think shes starting to beleive her own lies.It's my SDs 6th birthday today (Friday) but he has been denied a visit until Sunday when BM is free. My partner has the day off today. SD is at the Grandparents all day today...on her Birthday instead of with her Dad. The BM even tried to tell him where he could take her on Sunday.
It's so wrong.
She should live with us. It would be a much better life for her.
Oh, and he has turned up to
Oh, and he has turned up to collect her in the past when things blew up, only to find nobody home, and no phonecalls were being answered.