Another Email from SS's Teacher....This woman deserves a day at the spa.

I received this email at 8:30am today. SS hasn't been in school for 1hr yet.

Just wanted to let you know that SS was sent back to me from his RTI group for purposefully hitting another student with his chair and then when the teacher said something he threw his pencil. According to SS, he threw his pencil on the ground because it was out of lead. I had him sit on the carpet since I had students in my RTI group working at his desk. He continued to moan and make other noises to disrupt my group. I gave him a clipboard and paper to write apology notes to both the teacher and the student. I showed him what changes to make (capitalization, etc.) and he started yelling about having to start over. He then threw a paper at another student. I told him I would be contacting you and he started yelling at me about explaining himself. I told him that there is no explanation for throwing things at another student. I just wanted to keep you informed. If his behavior continues today, he will be speaking with Mr. Principal or Mrs. V. Principal.

I sent the same info to Mom.
-----End Email
I forwarded this to SO.

Text from SO: Damn kid, he must have stayed up late

At lunch we had this conversation. Literally the first thing out of SO's mouth when he walked into my office.

SO: I feel sorry for SS
ME: Did you just say you feel sorry for SS
SO: Yes, no one will be home for him tonight. His mom works and BT fiancé doesn't care about him
ME: I feel sorry for the kid he threw a chair at. He could have hurt someone. And I feel sorry for the kids in the TWO classes that he disrupted. Their education is important too.
SO: Well, I've had kids long enough to know the school exaggerates
ME: So you're saying the email was a lie
SO: No, but they are trying to get our attention and get us to do something. Like saying it's a machine gun when it's just a pink gun
----When SS was in Kindergarden he brought a pink gun to school. The school has a no toy guns rule. The teacher put the gun in SS's backpack and closed it with a zip tie. NO ONE ever said anything about a machine gun

I just changed the subject after that. I don't intend to get in an argument in my office about SS and I don't really care anymore.

BUT I do feel like I'm living in the Twilight Zone.

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SO does not have access to

SO does not have access to regular email at work and I just became the go to person for the school by default. It doesn't bother me. I just Reply, OK I'll let SO know.

Also, BM refused to address any information sent my the school for years, so they stopped contacting her at all until two weeks ago. She now wants the emails too. She's MOTY this month I guess.

"Well, I've had kids long

"Well, I've had kids long enough to know the school exaggerates"

Just for the record, I feel this was a dig at me because I don't have bios. FYI...I've been with SO since SS was in Pre K and SD was in 1st grade. We have the same info about kids in school.

Yes, my dh insults the school

Yes, my dh insults the school all the time. I often call him out on it. After I've retrieved my jaw from the floor. I make sure he hears the perspective of the teacher, the other kids, and the other parents. I'm not gonna sit there blowing rainbow bubbles at him while he spouts this craptastic nonsense.

And, in my experience, the school so far has, indeed, done a lot of minimizing and using precise, clinical language when describing an incident or behavior. I have never seen them "exaggerate."

SDthen14 got seriously bad grades as a freshman in high school. Some of the teachers told DH it "often happens" for frosh because it's "such an adjustment." I was really peeved about that. What about that the 500 other frosh in the school it DIDN'T happen to???? You can't tell me every kid in freshman English got an F!

So now as a sophomore, her grades are even worse. What happened to the "frosh" excuse? It has left. the. building. Meh.

Why are the SK never

:jawdrop: Why are the SK never responsible? Step parenting is like being in the Twilight Zone. These kids could seriously harm another child and it would be "poor SS/SD xyz must have provoked them"

He's only 9 and it's getting

He's only 9 and it's getting worse every year. SO has a cousin that's been in jail more than out his entire life. SD recently told SS, Do you want to grow up and be like Cousin? SD11 sees it. Why don't the parents?

how long do you think before

how long do you think before your DH starts advocating for Poopsie to move in with you guys? Since poor, poor Poopsie has such a shitty life at BMs... This is how it all started with my DH.. same freaking stupid conversations.
"poor poor SD lives in a shithole trailer with GBM, doesn't have her own room, piles of clothes everywhere, I think she's depressed, I think that's why she's doing poorly in school, blah blah boo hoo" gag me with a spoon.

So DH cons Miss Nasty into moving in with us and NOTHING changes.. her room at our house is a shithole of dirty clothes, food, and garbage, she's not doing well at school and the best part? She runs off to GBM's every freaking chance she gets! Funny, I thought we were "saving" her from GBM??

but I guess as much as those 2 years that SD16 lived with us sucked, it had to happen so DH could see that SD was the problem, that SD was the one making poor choices.

He already wants to have both

He already wants to have both kids live with us. Last year SS was with us for 1 month. SO told her that he was filing for CS modification and she made SS go back to her house. She has told SO that he is NEVER getting out of CS. She is a shitty mom, but I don't think she is bad enough that a judge will take the kids.

And I don't want SS full time.

It drives me nuts when

It drives me nuts when parents turn a blind eye to thier kid and go so far as to make excuses for them. My hubby does it all the time with SD. Makes my stomach turn.

When you don't discipline your kid, you don't get very good results.

SO glad I am past this stage.

SO glad I am past this stage. SD22 was a sh$t in school, well she was a sh$t everywhere. But when the school would contact him with a concern about her behavior he would do nothing because "the school aleady punished her." So when she got suspended for harrassing another student via text, he didn't even take away her damn phone! That may be what you have to look forward to in the coming years, continued/new ways to get into trouble, if your DH isn't willing to buckle down on the kid's behavior now.