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Ugh....

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Sometimes there is so much stress it feels like the whole world is crashing down. I know that everyone here says to leave him but other then the kids and a few rude comments once in a blue moon he's amazing. Here's the thing he was with his ex for seven years. She messed him up so bad that it was normal to him to go on dates and talk dirty and say things like hey your getting fat. That's just how there relationship worked. He never cheated on her but it was a game to hit on girls and get attention.

Loosing my mind

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Easter went ok she wasn't there. When she finalley picked up the kids from FMIL an hour late she saw me there while pulling up and threw her arms up at me and stared me down. This is ridiculous and if we would of been at my house I would have actually done more then just stand by and watch. I can't put up with being treated this way much longer. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but the kids aren't his so I shouldn't even have to deal with it.

Easter with BM help

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So Easter Sunday BF and I our going to visit the children, that are his only by paper at my MIL. FIL will be there and I am sides few aunt and uncles. But knowing BM she's going to stay for a little how do I control my hate for that? Say for the kids but there all her anyway. I just want to know why she thinks his is ok. We are not her family any more

Sick of being told your not a parent you don't get it.

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Being a step parent is harder then being a parent. And how can he tell me this when he isn't even the bio dad he is technically just a care giver. He tells me things will change don't worry I don't want to loose you. But how will things ever change? The kids aren't his which makes me resent them, "which then makes me feel like a horrible person", I could Handel him not wanting kids before cause a least I thought the children were a part of him but they aren't. And kids aren't stupid they are going to find out.

Can't Handel much more....

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So I wrote my BF an email regarding the kids not being his and him wanting none with me. I informed him that he was asking alot from me and that it was a lot to cope with. I also informed him that his daughter disrespecting me and him standing by and watching like it was no big deal was wrong and I wasn't going to let it stand any longer. I deserve respect and I deserve for him to demand that I get it. When he stands by and watches his kids that aren't even biologically his disrespect me and stands by and does nothing he is disrespecting me.

WTF do u do when they aren't his kids?!?!?

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How are you suppose to be ok raising kids part time that arent his. It's hard enough being a step parent as is. But knowing that they aren't his kids and he still is choosing to raise them when they are young enough for it to not matter. The BM is horrible to me why would I want her kids every other wknd exspecially when the oldest treats me like dirt and acts like a 2 yr old when she is 4 and the dad doesn't care because no one else punishes her so why should he it will do no good.

Help me

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Ok so I am the step mom of a 4yr old brat. We recently found out the kids aren't even his. I have known the kids for a Lil more then a year but now I want nothing to do with them. It's not fair to the kids but I still love him. What do I do now?

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