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Submitted by Ninja chick on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 1:09pm

So I wrote my BF an email regarding the kids not being his and him wanting none with me. I informed him that he was asking alot from me and that it was a lot to cope with. I also informed him that his daughter disrespecting me and him standing by and watching like it was no big deal was wrong and I wasn't going to let it stand any longer. I deserve respect and I deserve for him to demand that I get it. When he stands by and watches his kids that aren't even biologically his disrespect me and stands by and does nothing he is disrespecting me. All he could say to me is ok and don't leave me but if u do there's nothing I can do. So I poured my heart out of what's been hurting me and he says nothing at all to me. I just want to know if changes are going to be made and if I ever have a chance in him treating me like I deserve. The BM/X-Wife is a complete bitch to me and he tells me well what do u want me to do about it. Think about where she is coming from. She kinda has a right to treat you the way she does. How the hell is that suppose to make me feel. What am I suppose to do with it?!?!

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Submitted by young_step_mom on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 1:20pm

:jawdrop: She has a "right" to treat you like crap? Why???

This may be a little harsh, but if YOU aren't willing to stand up for you, why should he? You need to give him your bottom line and not expect him to change his mind, and he shouldn't be expecting you to change yours. If you want kids and he doesn't, stand up for what you want or move on. He needs to stand up for you in front of BM or you need to move on. Nobody deserves this disrespect. A lot of us have issues w BMs and SKs and DH allowing themselves to be used by BOTH of these people, but if he expects you to just lay down and take it you need to find someone who VALUES you and who stands up for you.

Best of luck!

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Submitted by Ninja chick on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 1:38pm

He's raising the kids that aren't his cause whirl they were married BM lead him to believe that the children were his. SD4 and SD1 1/2 and he didn't find out till last month they aren't his. He always had is doubts but guess he didn't care to find out till now. As far as BM treating me like shit it's been a long lasting battle. Now his excuse is she will be mean to the kids so I am just going to have to take it.

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Submitted by Ninja chick on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 10:50pm

Thank you so much looking at it that way says a lot and helps mean lot. That made me look at things way different. Thank you so much.

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Submitted by Ninja chick on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 2:01pm

She's such a whore she doesn't know who the dad is. The real kicker is b/c we live in Texas and he signed the bc he still has to pay child support on the SD4 yr old! Once there 4 there yours no matter what. So not only that but now were hurting for money while she has new car and house. Still some how I'm wrong for wanting him to stand up and if I stand up for myself I'm over reacting and need to just let it be. Your right BM will be a bitch regardless but he should stand up for me she's his ex.

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 2:16pm

At some point, you will hit your threshold and go. For some reason right now you are questioning it, I am there myself. From the outside this clearly looks like he doesn't care about you. You seem unwilling yet to give up.

Really take some time and evaluate the situation and decide if you want to make that hard choice.

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Submitted by Ninja chick on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 2:39pm

I'm not sure what my plan is but I know this I won't let it happen any more. But other then that I have no plan. To scared to leave I still love him.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Tue, 04/19/2011 - 2:45pm

My newest comment to posters like you (who could have been me a few years ago) is:

"Sometimes Love is not enough."

Think long and hard on this. And think about the day when you finally realize that you ARE worth something. That something is RESPECT. If there is no respect, how can there be love?