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still waiting to hear back from BM about next visitation

NewSM10's picture

It's been over a week now and I still haven't heard back from BM about our next visitation date. We are suppose to see SS9 every other weekend and right now 2 weeks feels like too long of a gap without seeing SS as it is. It is also his bday tomorrow, we sent a card in the mail, and we did decline to go to bday party with her fam this weekend. However, we should still get our visitation with SS! BM's facebook says that SS is due to go to BM's Dad's the following weekend.....so what the heck? BM said she was waiting to see when her husband was off (this was last Fri nite) so we can AGAIN have supervised visitation with all 4 of us. As I said before, fine for now, but would it kill her to let us have him for a few hours on Sunday by ourselves??? I mean, we can just pick him up, take him to lunch and to the jumping gym type place in her small little town and bring him back. Is that too much to ask? Does she and her husband HAVE to be there? even for a few hours not even 10 minutes away from her home??? I want to send her a msg and be like "Hey, when can we see our kid???" I know he is dying to see us. And it is not fair for her to make SS9 or us wait 3 weeks to spend time with us, ya know. Especially since we want to do something to celebrate his birthday.

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TiredofPayingforBM's picture

I just had this convo with a guy from Dad's of Washington and ( He is awesome and gives some good info) and he said that if you go pick up your kid there is nothing she can do . If its your scheduled weekend you go pick him up and she doesnt let you have him she can be held in comtempt. But it for sure has to be your scheduled weekend. The guy at dads of washington charges 40 a hour i think it was for a consultation, i talked to him and i learned that you cant give them a ounce of leway. The screw up you nail em to it. Dont know if it helps but maybe you can email the guy and ask some questions.

http://www.dadsamerica.org/WA/wa.htm

NewSM10's picture

Thanks for the info. We do not have court ordered visitation right now b/c it cost way too much money. BM doesn't want it to go to court either, and now I know why. I guess I will just wait until she offers up the next visitation date. FH will not tolerate her wanting many more supervised visitations with her around. It wasn't even necessary for BM and her husband to have been at the last visitation in our opinion. The child is fine being with just the two of us and would really prefer it. I guess I just have to wait until she is ready to let us have him whether it is two weeks, three weeks or a month. It will cost us $2,000 just to file the court papers!!!!!!!!!! We just don't have that kind of money.