Hello, I will try to make this short, but also not leaving anything out. I met a man with two sons at that time they were 5 and 6, they did not live with him. They visited every other weekend and did not EVER come over on holidays or anytime school was out. I was always at his place or he was always at mine. Although I knew he had children and I did not, I saw the amount of time he spent with them and said to myself if this relationship continues or gets serious I can handle it (relationship with kids).

But after we got married INSTANTLY they started coming over ALOT and also started coming over for spring break and holidays and summers. Once again I did not have a problem with the kids, but it was a lot to handle all at once. Since I was a homeowner my husband moved in with me after we got married. I had three bedrooms and 2 1/2 baths. The master was ours and the smaller of the other rooms was my office and the kids got the bigger guest room. jumping ahead in the story a little we are currently bumping heads on that since my husband and I now have two boys of our own, I would like for my sons to have the bigger room because they live there 24/7, 365 days a year and need the space. While my stepsons although they visit a lot only stay 3 days at the most and spend most of thier time outside playing or sitting under thier dad ....I feel should get the smaller room. This doesnt sit well with my hubby. In my mind when I purchased this home I was thinking about a family of my own, not thinking I would marry someone with kids...however I feel it unfair and not right to give my boys less just to spare feelings.
Now getting back on track when the kids started coming over they would call me names like: Im crazy, or your fat.... I felt this was coming from thier mom since they were still young, but anyway my husband dealt with this right away, and spoke to thier mom and it stopped. But two years into the marraige my husband and I had an argument and now she says the kids cant come over our home or only the dad can see them without me! I didnt even start the argument!! However my husband just wants to see the kids but im like not without me because we are a family and we already have small issues now she is separating us. The kids have done and said things were I would have been well in my right to say they cant come back over until they respect me but I did not PLUS my husband would have not allowed me to do that. But when the ex wife says they cant come over he is like ok: WIFE I will be back later going to spend time with the boys and I am left at home with our kids. I tell him this is a game she is playing but he does not care he just wants to see the kids and this hurts my feelings and shows the EX that we are not a team as a married couple.