Well me and Mariyna (my step daughter) have always been very close and still some what are. Her and her mother on the other hand have not always seen eye to eye so in some ways she was always closer to me then to her mom. Now I have always encouraged her to have a better relationship with her mom and I still do but I didnt realize how much it would hurt me. Recently I signed Mariyna up for Hula lessons and thought it would be something for us to do together and I would take her on the weeks we had her at our house and her mom would take her on the weeks she had her well I guess Mariyna asked her mom if she could just take her from now on, I have to be honest my feelings are really hurt and I am upset about it but not at any one just the situation. I am happy she wants to spend more time with her mom but I never realized how much it would hurt me. I feel stupid and selfish I shouldnt feel the way I do but I cant help it. I feel like I have raised her like my own and I feel like she is my daughter and sometimes I dont want to share. But in the end I have to realize she is not mine and be supportive of her relationship with her mother I just dotn know how to stop feeling the way I do and if I should be feeling this way and how to deal with it?

I dont know I hate this being a step parent is the hardest things I have ever had to do and I just dont know if I am going about things right? Should I pull myself away from our relationship or what?