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Submitted by Naturelover on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 2:52am

So, update everyone. We fly home today from vacation. Husband blew up on me last night as I went for a drink with my two adult children. The plan was then him and I would go for a drink. But, I came back and he was asleep- then he blows up when I start to pack. Then, tells me f*** you, we're done. So, this entire trip has been tenuous, it is so plainly obvious that he does not like my kids and they do not like him. He even made mention that he doesn't want them in "his" house anymore. So, after our longn day of travel today, I plan to pack a bag once he's asleep and head out. All my kids will be at their dads. Going to spend time alone thinking but this marriage is done.

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simifan's picture

Submitted by simifan on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 8:18am

{{{{Hugs}}}}

I'm so sorry. Divorce is always hard. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 10:57am

Re-read through your past blogs.

I think you should definitely re-read through them as well. They are the same identical issues and questions. 2 years ago, even.

I only say this because I too have been trying to "make things work" and doing the same things over and over again and come here and post when it blows up on me. I started doing things differently and getting ducks in a row to go solo in life if this year isnt any better, and 7 months in its "somewhat better", but thats not going to be good enough.

We go into these relationships with the best of intentions. The highest of hopes. And things either blow up or fall flat.

I still dont know why your husband and family hate each other. I still dont know why you daughter and STXH dont get along or why your STBXSd and daughter dont like each other...but I dont really need to.

I suggest reading other posts here and re-reading your posts and the answeres that you got. Also consider therapy - you kept saying in your blogs that you wish you were more supportive and wish you had been stronger. I think thats a good place to start in your new journey.

((hugs)).

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 1:17pm

Sorry your trip got ruined and you have to figure this out. Stay strong and don't look back!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 2:59pm

...he blows up when I start to pack. Then, tells me f*** you, we're done...

After what you've been through with your H, I hope you're ready to be done with all of his BS. {{{HUGS}}}

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 11:42pm

No advice just here to support you. Divorce sucks... but being treated like that sucks harder - been there, done that.

(((HUGS)))

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Submitted by Naturelover on Wed, 07/13/2022 - 7:30pm

Thank you everyone for your supportive posts. I am really struggling right now, desperately miss my husband and so wish I wasn't in this situation right now. It Sucks so much but I don't know what more to do- he really doesn't want any of my kids around so what choice so I have? And just to be clear, my kids are good kids. Kind, respectful, independent, smart- they don't deserve to be treated this way: