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Submitted by My Brady Bunch on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 12:49pm

My BD12 has brought up a few times now that SD12 has said, that "the only reason my dad hasn't kicked you all out is because he likes having someone here that cooks and cleans". By 'you all' she means myself, my BD6, BD12, and BD16. Of course I know this isn't true, however, it is hurtful that she STILL after three years living together as a family, doesn't 'get it' that her father and I love each other and plan on spending the rest of our lives together.

I wonder if I should bring this up to BF so he can talk to her or is it worth it? I could wait until our therapy appt., (just him and I go), to bring it up, which happens to be tonight.

Has anyone else dealt with something similar?

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Submitted by My Brady Bunch on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 12:55pm

Sorry I left out that all five kids live with us full-time and go to their other parents', every other weekend. Smile

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Submitted by stepgin on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 2:38pm

I went back to school when I was 39 and finished when I was your age. It was tough but really worth it. You'll do great because you mind set is completely different from the younger students.

I have to tell you a funny story though. I graduated cum laude and during the honor's ceremony, my daughter (who was 17 at the time) asks my sister, "Does this mean Mom's in the stupidist honor's group?" LOL!!! THAT will keep you humble!

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Submitted by stormabruin on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 1:39pm

If you're going to counseling tonight, maybe let him in on it before you go so he's not shocked when it comes up, but yes...it is definitely something your husband needs to be aware of, & certainly something that he needs to address & clarify with his daughter. She needs to hear him say that you are there because he loves you & your children & he WANTS you there.

He needs to be matter-of-fact about it & leave it that simple. That way, there's no chance for wavering or letting her feel like there could possibly be any other reason.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 1:48pm

I think you definitely need to let your SO know that she says this. In fact, it should be brought up in a family meeting, for ultimate transparency, since it's a "he said, she said" thing. Your daughter said his daughter said he said this. More than likely, someone in there is telling a lie. If everyone is aware that they will be called out on it each and every time, they might be less likely to lie in the future.