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BM's unusual FIRST streak of niceness - somewhat nice but unsettling

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Thu, 02/21/2008 - 5:15pm

It all started a few weeks ago when BM came to our door to talk about benefits and stuff going on with SD. She mentioned some things and said that SD said that someone said that BM's and SM's usually don't get along. BM said that I was never DH's wife (DH was there too) so it's cool and that I shouldn't hesitate to call her for anything. This is a TOTAL 180 from everything she's ever said or done...her "I don't believe in stepfamilies...she'll always just be his wife, not your stepmom...and I don't want to deal with any third parties."

When do you have to stop paying for daycare?

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Thu, 02/07/2008 - 12:39am

In the child support agreement DH has, he has to pay for half of daycare (which is to BM's sister). They're supposed to provide proof of daycare every couple of months, but they don't. So, DH's job stops providing daycare (Dependent care account) when the kid turns 13. Has anyone had to deal with this? DH said he's going to stop paying for daycare at 13, but BM might bring him back to court. If they go back to court, he'll have to pay more in support!

Is there a cut off point or daycare?

Tax filing status - Jointly or Separately?

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Thu, 01/24/2008 - 8:45am

What tax filing status do you file? This is our first year filing Married ______. BM in our case, lied about her income (she's self employed) - but is currently being charged with a felony (so we think she might not try to pull anything regarding child support right now)... Also, we just got married and we're having a child of our own - so I'm not sure how she's taking that...if it's the same as before, she must be pissed.

So, what tax filing status do you file and why?

affection towards SD vs. affection towards wife - during visitation

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Fri, 01/18/2008 - 7:24am

I've been struggling with this for quite some time. It started in the beginning when SD was 7; when we first started getting visitation with her. I was DH's constant before SD came into the picture on a normal basis (usually the kid is always there, then the stepparent comes into the pic).

Anyone feel sick before visitation weekends?

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Wed, 01/16/2008 - 12:20pm

Does anyone feel sick before visitation weekends? We have SD over every other weekend. Before, DH would pick SD up from school. BM would call them and ask them to drop by her house to pick up clothes (whatever). This stressed me out...now, we have more clothes at our house and DH tells BM "no, we have clothes for her." I don't know if it was excuse to interact with him or what, I don't know.

Blended family - quinceanera or wedding - who walks SD/daughter down the aisle?

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Mon, 01/14/2008 - 3:55pm

Has anyone attended a quinceanera (like a sweet 16th but for Mexicans)...it's basically like a wedding...or a wedding where the parents were separated? Maybe each parents has already found a significant other or not. My SD already told me that she's expecting my husband to walk her down the aisle, and that her mom wants to walk on the other side. My husband told me that he won't do it because I'm his family now...and so is SD. But I don't know if he'll actually have the balls to tell SD that and if BM will pressure him into doing it.

Has anyone seen the movie "Enchanted?"

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Mon, 01/14/2008 - 3:45pm

I haven't seen it. SD saw it...she said she didn't like it. Normally she'll elaborate on the story and why or why she didn't like a movie..but she couldn't explain why for this movie. She said it was something about a stepmom, a bio mom, a son, then the daughter finds another man to marry who has a daughter from a previous relationship...

Has anyone seen it? Can you explain the family dynamics and possibly why SD didn't like it? I'm assuming a lot of the characters hit home ...or just disturbed her?

Welcome to the life....of a stepmom

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Submitted by Mrs Katch 22 on Mon, 01/14/2008 - 1:46pm

How does one deal with harboring an intense amount of hatred towards an individual; one whose presence is eternal to this lifetime unless a drastic decision is made to rule out the one person you truly love and are in love with to rid your life of the one you despise. One can find comfort in the misfortunes towards this individual, justifying it as karma for all the hell inflicted upon others.

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