the bread winner sounds like the best way to go all though i do not think this is fair i dont think u should miss out on your child growing up just because he has a past he should report her for fraud or something not sur ehow it works where u are but in ennlgand this is the way i would go

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )

While she may lie about her wage, she is still working which doesn't make the court suspicious of her. If she was to stop working altogether, she probably wouldn't get more CS than she's getting now. If your DH was to quit working, he would still have to pay CS even though he wasn't making any money.

So if he was to be the stay at home Dad, not only would you be bringing home the bread, but you'd also technically be paying DH's CS for him. You don't want that, do you?

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

I don't care who you are, you can't choose not to work and then expect to have your child support reduced. It's hard enough getting it reduced when you have a legitimate hardship, such as getting laid off from a job or suffering a debilitating illness or injury that leaves you unable to work. If you want to pay his CS with your earnings, go for it, but if you think you're going to be successful in getting CS reduced if he quits working, forget it. Doesn't matter how much money the mother and her family have. He still has an obligation.

♥ ANNE 8102 ♥

How did you find out Bm was working but the courts don'y know this? My SS mom doesnt work, but yet brags that her and her new hubby are 'partners' not sure if she really is involved in his business or if it's just a stupid comment and shes trying to make herself SOUND IMPORTANT????? and yes I agree, the social worker told my DH if he took a lower paying job he might still be obligated to pay the set amount because thats what HE is capable of.BUT yet BMs half of CS is based on min.wage NOT her current pay she made when SHE worked, explane that to me???? women can get away with it but the men can't, nice laws.

bc in the future, we may encounter this exact situation...and why wouldnt u want ur DH to stay home w the kids instead of putting them in daycare? everyone told me, and from what i gather from the so unfair court system, that the CS obligation wont be reduced bc it will go by "income potential". this burns me to no end bc BMs have no "income potential". ours dropped out of nursing school to keep a part time minimum wage job so she could be lazy and rape my FH for more CS and it doesnt matter. they actually told us, "be glad she works bc she could choose to stay home and then youd be paying more"!!! why is it okay for a BM to stay home to care for the kids, but its not okay for BF??? i have to stop typing now bc im getting sooooo mad just thinking about it. just another way for the courts to punish the "new" or "2nd" family, eh?

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

Bella - I'm with you on this too hun - the double standard that exists in the court system in regards to fathers is incendiary!! I will PM you with a nice little tidbit of info we learned yesterday.

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

in my state, if Dh were to quit working and I supported him fully, they would go off my income since I support him. Not a good idea!

I would be careful about making those decisions. First of all you are assuming that if he leaves his job that the CS will be reduced and that is not always the case. He could probably get it reduced if he became disabled and there was just cause, but not because he decided that he did not want to work or pay. With the economy being like it is, price of gas doubling a lot of people are hurting now and some are paying most of their unemployment for CS.

My DH used to stay at home. He worked before we met and then quit and stayed at home with our three children. The diffence is that BM did the same thing. She worked and then met her now husband and quit to stay at home and have children with him. So DH stayed at home and we paid CS for a year and a half this way and then motioned to have CS lowered. There were the following factors though: Both parents had a change in circumstances, there was no longer daycare costs for SD, and more children in the equation.
We were successful in reducing support because of all of these things being a factor. You would have to prove to the judge that he didn't quit just to get the support lowered. They will allow revisions based on changes in life but it can't be solely to avoid paying child support.
Don't get me wrong...we did it but we paid for a long time before we did it and we were legitimate in the whole daycare cost alone having a major factor. BM still tried to protest it but the judge agreed that what is fair for one is fair for both.
Good luck to you...if you can afford to pay his CS for a while at the current rate then maybe you could go for 50/50 custody if you are close enough with DH being at home then??? Just a thought! That would be a great reason to negotiate a new support order as well.