Repeat after me: We do not beg to sit at tables we were not invited to

I came across this and LOVE it:

Repeat after me: We do not beg to sit at tables we were not invited to.
We do not chase people who exclude or ignore us.
We do not seek healing from those who hurt us.
We do not set ourselves on fire to keep others warm.
We create our own circle.
We surround ourselves with only those who truly love, understand, and respect us.
We learn where to express our energy.
We remember our self-worth.

-Dr. Jessica Taylor

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Completely

Agree

I learned that this year.

I learned that this year. After a very dark time.

It is absolutely FREEING.

Live that! A basic mantra I

Live that! A basic mantra I've learned to live by is:

I am no longer available for things that make me feel like sh!t.

OMG, this is the mantra I

OMG, this is the mantra I have been needing right now. Thank-you!

Slow. Clap.

Thank you…

...for sharing this. Dr. Jessica Taylor sounds like a wise woman!

Great stuff. If... we implement and enforce it.

IMHO we can't keep this a secret. Those who violate these things, need to know they have violated them and we need to force the consequences upon them.

Protecting ourselves requires an insurmountable defense. Which is an overwhelming offense.

IMHO of course.

YES! This is so true

YES! This is so true especially for SD15. I have had the same conversation over and over again. DH wishes we were closer. I cook dinner and SD refuses to eat with us as a family (a literal table too). I will not be the one to beg SD to join us time and time again. I offer to SD15 to sit down and talk about any issues she wants to work out and she has NEVER taken me up on it. Just goes to show that SHE doesn't want any kind of relationship with me or our bio son, so I am done bending over backwards to accomodate when it is not wanted.

That was me and SD only

That was me and SD only sporadically, as I never saw much of her. . . add really nasty passive aggressive behavior beyond the refusal to eat what I cooked. Yes, I offered to talk and she complained about it on social media, getting "likes" from her mother. I threw in the towel 5 years in (two of those years she wasn't speaking to us) and couldn't tolerate the very little I did see of her thereafter. Enough is enough.

Exactly! SD15 would complain

Exactly! SD15 would complain to DH about me, but never to my face. When I would tell her "No, I'm not going to text about it, we need to sit down." All of a sudden everything was fine and she didn't want to talk to me. Just goes to show she was shifting blame and complaining for attention.