We had SD13 this weekend because BM and her new boyfriend went to cuba. She didn't even tell us she was going to cuba until last week. And also didn't inform us as to where SD was going while she was in Cuba. After prying it out of her she says her aunt is staying at the house with SD. SO freaks out and says no, she can stay with us for the weekend and her aunt can stay with her during the week since SO is going out of town again for work.

Even though we only had her for a little over 24 hours it was still a hellish weekend. SO just doesn't know what to do anymore. He is so frustrated and stressed out. Which strangely makes me less stressed. I think its because I feel better knowing that he gets it. That he is starting to realize more and more every day that there is something wrong with her. I'm starting to realize that maybe all this stuff isn't necessarily her fault. There is something not right upstairs. Simple everyday tasks are too much for her. She can't process anything. She just doesn't understand life in general. She thinks the world stops and ends with her. Not in a conceited or egotistical way. In a legitimate way. It's like she didn't learn object permanence when she was a toddler. She has no solid emotion. She has no filter. She says whatever comes into her head regardless of how rude or inappropriate. I've never seen anything like it before and it seems like the older she gets, the worse it is.

Luckily we are in the process of getting some serious help for her. I have a phone interview on Friday with Childrens mental health centre so we can get the ball rolling. The only downside is that there is a waiting list up to 6 months. But they did reassure me that they prioritize and that her case would probably be considered priority given she has so many issues. Which brings me to the point of this post....BM is being sooooo difficult about this. She says she on board with getting SD into this program, but it seems like she doesn't want to help at all.
I told her that there is some information I need for the phone interview. Basic things like the last time she had a physical, her psychiatrists name etc...We don't know any of this info because she refuses to give SO information about what's going on with SD. She refused to give it to me. Flat out said no. She said "they can call me if they want to know". The services for kids like SD are few and far between in our city. That's why there is a waiting list of up to a year. I had to make an appointment 2 weeks in advance just for a phone call with these people. Does she not understand that you cant just call these people and chat?? They don't have time for bullshit and if you show any signs that you aren't going to be involved in helping then they will either put you at the bottom of the list or boot you from the program all together!
She's such a bitch! Then she springs on us the other day that she wants her new boyfriend to be at the in-person meeting that takes place after the phone interview. She's not taking no for an answer. I just laughed to myself. SO said absolutely not, and now is saying that he doesn't want BM there either. Which since they have joint custody, he is allowed to say he doesn't want her there. She can set up her own meeting if she likes.
I just don't get this bitch! We are trying tirelessly to get this kid some effing help and she's doing everything she can to make it difficult. And not ONCE has she said thank you to me for using my connections to set all this up! Ungrateful!

I can't wait to tell the social worker that I can't give her the information because BM refuses to give it to me. At least they will see from the very beginning what kind of psycho they are going to be dealing with...