Ok, after a week or two of visiting daily sometimes more, I figured it was time to blog who I am so to speak and why I'm here....give my stats..LOL. I am 42 mother of 3 amazing grown children. Two of them are still in college, one is out and travels around with his job. I was with their dad for 22 years, only married for a year of those in 1994. I should have never married him but I did and quickly regretted it, however after divorcing his sorry a** I decided to "stay" with him until the kids were into college. So I lived a very sad lonely life for a long time but on the flipside was able to dedicate my every waking moment to my children, their education, sports, etc. If i could have a re-do I wouldnt change a thing. My ex and I had a friendly relationship mostly, comfortable I would say but never love. I was too young adn immature to know what love was. Anyway I get my kids almost all into college and just couldnt stay another day, so I left, leaving my youngest who was 18 to finish his senior year w his dad. A year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are engaged to be married the end of July next year. I had NO FRIGGIN IDEA WHAT I WAS GETTING INTO!!!! LOL...wouldnt change it of course, but holy cow, did not know (and mind you I work in a busy ER) that there were crazy, hateful, vindictive, nasty CB BM's out there and that I would be dealing with her. Initially I tried to be friends with the SD13 but she is too much like her mom, taking stuff that belongs to me even after I offered to let her use it, lying, failing school, swearing, calling FH NASTY names like the "F" word, etc. In my opinion she is too far gone to help unless we get her out of that house, which she has chosen to stay in. And why not?? When BM excuses her from school, I think shes missed 18 ? days of school this year so far, almost all excused by BM for being "ill" which BM has made a career out of. They live in filth and grime. Now I'm not hte best housekeeper and I have dogs int he house, but dirty underwear on top of dirty dishes piled on the floor is just plain gross!! So I am here to see what other people do and how they handle daily problems. We had SD for the month of Oct but she didnt want to follow the rules so she told the FH off royally and went back with the BM. The BM doesnt want her btw, she text's FH and calls too, wnating to know when he's going to take SD for the weekend. FH has made it clear to ALL that as soon as SD calls and makes some sort of attempt to change things with him, then we will not have her here. He takes her to her eye appts, we have her set up for counseling, we take her to her orthodontic appts, and pay for half of all plus he provides all her medical and dental, and pays 420/month CS. He stopped and said hello to SD the other day and she looked at him and said "Daddy, I'm working on my Christmas list"...well unbeknownst to her, FH started a savings acct for her and made a deposit, and she will get a fairly large stocking stuffed with goodies from us, but nope, no laptop or 35mm digital camera or whatever else she's added to the list. Those are the only words she has spoken to him since Oct 25th. And that day it was all I hate you, you suck, you're a fu***r, I dont need you, balh blah blah!! he's hurting and hiding it well and he says I love her more than anything but I cant continue this....