Need Help giving up control
I'm not exactly new here, but I haven't been on for a while. My story is the same as everyone's, Marriage would be fantastic, but the Skids and DH's stupidity screw it up.
I have disengaged quite well from my SD, and SS (both have moved back with us), if they don't do there homework, shower, brush teeth, have clean clothes I really don't care. My BS is doing just fine, and I make sure the above is always done for him.
My big issue is the fact that my husband does NOTHING around the house. He does do home repairs as needed but they tend to take 3 times as long to finish as what I think would be a reasonable time frame.
He works full time (as do I) and comes home sits in his chair, while i finish up supper and get it on the table. Then he has to "rush" to the gym, because god forbid he miss a day. I want to take his gym and shove it up his ass.
I can't stand a messy house, how do I give up the control, and go on strike and let it get to the point that he can't take it.
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Can you have a serious talk
Can you have a serious talk with DH? Sit him down and say, "Look, I appreciate everything you do here, but I'm overwhelmed and I need your help. If I cook, can you and skids do dinner dishes? Can we implement a simple chore chart for the kids so they can also pitch in around here? I'm at my breaking point and don't want to live in a messy house but can't keep up with everything without a hand"...
Thank you everyone. It was
Thank you everyone. It was wild last night, I got home from work, and hubby was finishing supper up (making salad), had the table set and the whole nine yards. Maybe he subconsciously new that I was bitching!
I would love to be able to get a cleaner to come in, I have thought about it often, but then seem to find a way to spend the money I would have used for a cleaner!