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Submitted by Mom2TwinsnTeens on Fri, 12/02/2011 - 8:29pm

DH has another child with another BM, not the one whose kids live with us. Paternity was never established so we're not sure if its his or not. Couple months ago the FL Dept of Revenue put a $31k lien on our joint acct. I hired an atty to dispute it. Turns out DH in a moment of stupidity signed a notorized document agreeing it was his kid and he was gonna pay the BM $120/month. She got stupid and he stopped paying. So she got on welfare and now they want him to pay them back for all the assistance she received. My issue was that they had no business tagging my account. They told my atty that they needed proof that some of the money was mine. I sent them bank statements for the entire year and showed them where I transferred money out of my single account into the joint one. Now they're saying that's not enough proof. Argh! I just spent an hour today at the bank having images printed off showing deposits made with my name on em. If that doesn't do it for em, screw em. There was only $20 in the acct when they hit it. If they wanna be asshats, they can have the $20, nothing more and like it!

Also, last year she ran into hard times so I let her and the kid move into MY house. Instead of being grateful, she constantly disrespected me, sold pills out of my house (I was working in the pharmacy at that time and I was livid!!), smoked weed with her 10 year old at home and brought her mangy dog inside to pick ticks off of her after I booted my dogs out of their room to give to her. Then she got mad at DHs friend over something dumb and fled the state, moving into a friends garage. I can't believe they paid this woman when they should have taken the kid away. He's so messed up DH wants nothing to do with him

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 7:03am

Dad doesn't want anything to do with his son and has stopped paying CS. Mom is just trash.

That poor kid ended up with two jerks for parents. Hopefully he'll turn out ok in spite of them.

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Submitted by Mom2TwinsnTeens on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 1:29pm

Not sure exactly what the issue was that made him stop paying. I think she was trying to get more money out of him and went about it the wrong way. No paternity test was ever done.

Yep, my DH is horrible. He took on two children not his own, works long hours doing actual work through back and cancer surgery pain to provide us with nice things, then comes home and cooks 'cause I cant even boil an egg. What a douchebag.

Even if we got custody of the kid (which wouldnt happen cause BM thinks shes the best thing for him) he'd have to go live in a facility. He would be a danger to the other kids and I wont have that around my twins.

I came to this site hoping to find support in raising kids that arent mine. All I've found are stepparents complaining about their stepkids and spouses and crackpot advice to "disengage". Yet when my DH acts in the best interest of our family he gets blasted. Whatever. I'll just keep reading y'alls miserable posts and laugh cause I'm actually making this work and I'm sure I'm a lot younger than the majority here.

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Submitted by Mom2TwinsnTeens on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 5:03pm

We have his daughter from another woman and his daughters two siblings, that are not his. That BM is out of the picture, so we don't have that drama. The kids respect me and I'm a better parent than their mom, so I say that's working.

I was just complaining about legal issues. We haven't heard from this BM for a year. Why is it wrong for him not to pay CS when it would have gone to drugs anyway?

Both these women "accidently" got pregnant trying to guilt DH into marriage. We were married and planned the pregnancy. I would have never had kids if I couldn't provide for them on my own. I was responsible, so why should I suffer from someone elses poor choices?

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Submitted by Mom2TwinsnTeens on Sun, 12/04/2011 - 7:35pm

I agree with you there. My whole complaint is the DOR had no business touching my account in the first place and they're making ME jump through hoops to get it reversed before they'll deal with him . Actually, if DH had just paid what he agreed, it would have been 18k by now instead of 31k. He didn't even remember signing that agreement til I showed him the copy the atty sent.

DH led a very different life back then and he DOES have to pay for all those poor choices, but I feel like I'm paying for them too which is bullshit.