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Submitted by Mlena on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 5:45pm

My finance had to call the ambulance this weekend because I was having a strong anxiety attach and could not catch my breath. Since his daughter moved in less than a month ago she has controlled the atmospher in our home with attitude. My fiance is very sympathtic to his daughter because he said she had it rough with her mom. In addition to this air of attitude, I feel left out like a thrid wheel and yes I explaned this to him and he said it is my imagination. Worse, no sex, bedroom door must be open. Beside loosing hope for this relationship I am also don't want to get sick! Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

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Submitted by Shell8078 on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 6:01pm

Don't take this wrong but LEAVE!!! It's not worth lossing your health and sanity over!

It is bound to get worse if this is the response he gave you. Dad will do what he can to try to make up for the suffering of the childs past because he feels gulity.

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Submitted by rjs1069 on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 6:04pm

i would seek counseling for yourself privately and see if there is anything you can do on your own to help yourself out. and if time allows you need to be in counseling with your fiancee as well both you and the therapist can help get across your concerns and feelings that he should be taking into consideration. good luck!

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Submitted by Timetogiveup on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 6:24pm

Hey Arizona...I started having anxiety attacks almost 2 years ago…never had them before. It sucks….there is no logic behind them, they get worse, you begin to think you are going to die and you begin got lose control of your life. Its sucks…I was always considered the “strong” one and I started to live in fear of this attacks. I am on Xanax BUT I only take when I really need it….part of my issues was not having control over my life anymore. I didn’t want to be on the daily meds because I thought that would make me lose control even more. I don’t take them every day, sometimes I can go a week or so…but I never know when I need them. I go to a therapist too. I would say, I feel like I am under control and when I do have an attack…I am able to control it instead of having it control me. Right now its new, seek help ASAP…get it under control……this can ruin your health.

Here are some websites I found helpful:
http://www.tapping.com/
Tapping is crazy…..but it works.
http://www.panic-away.com/?hop=russp
That program is awesome….I really found the techniques on that site extremely helpful, this is would I used to get the attacks under control…..for me this site was a blessing.

Trust me, get help because it will only get worse.

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Submitted by alwaysme on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 7:26pm

I too suffer immensely from panic attacks i got them at 22 and really got so very sick from it. They stopped again for over 10 years until i met hubby and skids, the tension with skids and BM was so great that my panic came back with a vengence and i have not been able to get rid of them since.

Timetogiveup stated that is because you have no control over anything anymore and that makes you anxious. I believe its the body's way of telling you that there is something seriously wrong. Experience tells me your health is not worth it and either DH helps you or you find peace elsewhere. Panic Attacks are a nightmare, you are holding in a hell of a lot of anger frustration and hurt and your body is telling you that.

If you really want to stay in your relationship get counselling asap for both of you. Otherwise leave right now

I am staying with hubby but i made steps to gain some control back in my life, I make the rules now at home and i dont feel guilty for it anymore, it took 4 years but i am better off for it. I dont care what the kids think anymore they do as i ask under my roof. BM gets no say, i ignore everything about her so she has given up trying to get her own way. So i am finally finding peace, i still get panic attacks because i dont believe anyone fully recovers they just get easier.

I really do wish you all the best.