I've been searching all over for advices since I'm not getting any in the places I've been looking.

Let me go from the beginning.

I've met a guy, he's 50yrs and I'm 30yrs.... when I first met him, I had no idea he was divorced but I was told that he has 3 kids. This went by so fast that after meeting him in a year we decided to get marry(this was not a marriage that I wanted)  after the fact that he begged my parents for my hand in marriage and they convinced me.

He always said that he's had bad experience dating women with kids since the baby daddy was always a treat. 

When I got down to asking him questions about the back ground and why his marriage ended he said his first wife left him because she went back to her first child father

When I finally read the divorce papers I saw that it was one child with his ex wife that's when he later said the other two kids are with someone else. That made me very uncomfortable, after we got married and moved in together he was happy about the meeting his kids. I had expressed that I'm not ready to rush into bu having them come for a weekend being our first week living together he was annoyed at first but later complied. When I finally met the kids( 2 girl 21 and 12 and they boy 14) they seemed distant at first but it was expected. On the second meeting of the two youngest the boy was and is very quiet and open. The girl had mention that she was scared of me because she was told I was mean??? This brings me to their mother. Thw first time I saw her I was in the car and she was standing with the kids behind the car, now the car is tinted but she told him that I rolled my eyes at her I said to him how can she see me do that when I facing forward and she was behind me, I didn't take it as anything.... after that it got worse, she would call him all hours just to say hi and they would talk for hours. When we're all around the kids her attitude is nasty towards me and when I told him about it his response was that's how she is with my efforts to explain to him that it's unfair to me he becomes defensive and defends her. I got tired of it. When was his son's graduation he asked me come, I don't like standing in the sun at all so I walked with his umbrella, she took it upon herself to text him making mockery of tjw fact that I'm using an umbrella...so I asked him why does he feel so comfortable calling you and talk about me and also sending such messages? His response was I didn't had to show you the messages. He's always defending her actions. I asked him, you didn't want to marry someone with a child because you don't want baby daddy drama but you're doing the exact same thing to me?

One evening a text came to his phone saying "hi this is shelly,so I've heard you've left your kids mom and married someone else I hope it's worth it" now bare in mind according to him they broken up more that 7yrs now. When I him he said he doesn't know the person I've doubted that until now and I have feelings it's her baby mama. After 2 weekend and the kids like being around me they suddenly stopped coming when I asked him he said he doesn't know why. The kids are very unkempt and I always made sure that their tidy and well kept. 

Fast forward..... a few weeks ago I got a text from a strange number saying hi. Now since I worked in a cellphone store many customers had my number so I figured that it was one of them. I contemplated many times before I responded. So I said hi, who is this? They said shelly l said who are you trying to reach? Your man, I said come and get him. She replied maybe if he had looks.... I said is there a reason for me texting me and how did you get my number and said ask your man. 

I then did the human thing and called him expressing to him about the shelly that first text him and that's now texting me.....he went off on me saying that I asked for it since I was the one to call her. I said had I been the first do you think I would have called you? He then hanged up.

So I then responded to her addressing her by her real name....she then called me ugly. So I sent a text that I knew would stop all communication, I said If you can't talk to my face get the fuck out my inbox you stupid ugly ass bitch  with yuh 2 ugly kids. You're so pathetic. Then 10 seconds later he called me and hanged up and refused to answer when I called back but the text stopped right there so I was convinced it was her.

So I got home and told him about the text he denied that it was his kids mom but was furious about me saying 2 ugly ass kids until this day. 

I've apologized for calling them ugly but he just see me as the only one responsible and even blames me for them not coming anymore because I called them black and ugly....I said I called them black then he switched it and said isn't that what you told their mother. I said they stopped coming long before I got the messages. Then he said we'll why would I want you around my kids and you calling them ugly.

Every conversation we have he makes it about his kids and add that oh I know you don't like them...come on its you who is making it about them.

Now I feel trapped, I no longer want to be married to him but he doesn't want me to leave. He doesn't want me to work, go to school just wants me to home but doesn't buy me anything nothing even under wear when I need them.