Making this short but will not skew any of the information because I want honest opinions. My 20 year old stepdaughter has stopped speaking to her dad because she wants us to split up. She has told this to her mother who has relayed this to my husband. I knew over the course of the past year that she was telling him lies about me and over dramatizing things that happened between us. We have been married for 5 years together for 7 so I am not a brand new person in her life. We have always gotten along really well under the circumstances and she has lived with us 24/7 since I have been in his life. She is an only child, very spoiled, never told no and is very selfish and narcissistic. Her father openly admits he has raised her wrong and now it's coming back to bite him...his words. He is now realizing that she has been sabotaging our marriage and that is coming from his ex who is trying to work with her to let her know what she is trying to do is so wrong. This is making my husband ill....the way she is treating him because they have always been very very close. She is in college about an hour away. She posts innuendo's about me on her facebook constantly where I finally defriended her because it was hurting my feelings so badly. That really set her off when she found that out. And according to her mother, she was obviously going on my facebook wall looking for stuff to bitch about. Her personality has changed over the past year with horrible anger issues and I have tried over and over to tell my husband that something wasn't right. Finally they are realizing that and the mom is trying to get her some medical help and then some counseling. Living like this over the past year and a half...with someone that was constantly telling lies about you, hating you, has worn me out emotionally and physically. Our marriage is very rocky because I felt like he would never validate what I was trying to tell him I am making plans at the end of the year to start the divorce process because I don't think no matter if she gets help that it will ever be comfortable to live in my own home. And would my husband be better off without me so him and his daughter can reconcile? I know that is like giving in to her but I am thinking of my own sanity right now. Do you think you would do the same if you were in my position. Also we do not have kids together. Mine are grown. Thank you for listening!