I'd talk to your 5 year old and find out what's going on and get her to a counselor as well. If it comes out that SD9 has been acting inappropriate towards your daughter then you need to find out and deal with it from that point on.

The most important thing is to find out what's going on and to protect your daughter

I have two SDs 17 and 11.....but ever since I met them, eight years ago or so, they have always been very modest, Especially around their dad....I really don't have any experiencewith this type of bevaior, but it is distrubing if she is acting like that in front of her dad....I agree that u should take yur daughter to the counselor and find out what exactly has been going on. Yur #1 priority is to protect her right now.....What does yur DH say about her behavior?

"You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar"

Please take this very seriously. My co-workers neice (age 4)started to suddenly act-out sexually. It turned out that she was being molested by a 9 year old girl at her daycare (in a playhouse). My co-worker's family had a lot of sympathy for the other girl. This incident was reported to Child Protective Services.

But your counselor could be right. I've read so many books about children being molested, and as a result, they act out inappropriately. I can't remember the name of the book but this little girl was sexually abuse, so she would tell everyone, even strangers, "Fuck me hard. Fuck me good."

It's a scary thing, but I would definitely take her to a psychiatrist or something!

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

very serious and I agree it's much much better to be safe than sorry!

Keep sd from being alone with and sharing the same room as bd!! sounds like your daughter was being sexually molested bt sd!!!!

strep down there would have been transmitted sexually

Your SD needs help, too. Someone has taught her this behavior.

What does you DH have to say about it? I'd make an appt with a child psychologist, just in case, you can never be too careful.

I agree with the others. Both kids need to be talked to to find out what is going on. We played Dr. when we were little, but our clothes were on.

I would also worry that if SD is doing this to BD, then someone did it to SD for her to learn this behavior.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Recording the conversation is a good idea.

Its hard to know what is normal and what is not with very young children. I think apart from breathing, almost all behavior is LEARNED. However, was it learned from someone touching the child, or just from them catching part of a romantic movie? All children are diferrent, and some behave diferrently to others. Little girls often want to marry their Daddies, and they often fantasise about romance etc.

I had an experience bewteen my son and stepson which scared me recently, but I took the time to get absolutely rock solid professional advice to put my mind at rest, and am glad I did. I now know that children who have not been molested can do things we percieve as "not normal" and sometimes it means nothing, other than that the children need a good talking to about what is or isn´t appropriate.

As a child I was very shy of my body, and never played doctors and nurses. However, in dealing with the i mentioned above, many friends came forward with their own experience. My DH admitted he and his brother would touch each others wee wees in the bath. My friend admitted her 5 year old daughter opens her legs with no underwear and touches herself. My Mother even told me that her sister used to get her to touch her private parts. It all sounds GROSS to me, but comforting that "normal" people, who have not been molested and have no mental damage from it have come forward with these sorts of taboo experiences as very young children.

As everyone else said, better safe than sorry, but at the same time: don´t panic. She may just be attention seeking and acting out on what she thinks is daring or "womanly" behavior. CPS explained to me that two kids touching each others parts, while wrong and needing attention is NOT the same as sexual abuse. Sexual abuse includes a degree of fear, intimidation and a notion of an abuser and abuseee. Children of 5 are almost completely innocent of what sex means, or how their private parts are any diferrnt to their arm or their leg in some cases. A sense of privacy is something we TEACH them, not something they are born with.

I have made sure my son now doesn´t get dressed in front of anyone, knows not to make jokes about bottoms or private parts. I never wanted to be that sort of a strict Mother - but this is the world we live in!