Suddenly I am the bad guy and SD12 actually told me last month that im a mutha effing B! Screamed it over and over at me after I had told all 3 kids (my own included) to settle down. This happened the first weekend in May when DH wasn't home. There has been no consequences for this outide of her phone being taken away. Its actually worked out in her favor because now he is spending more time with them and bending over backwards, thinking extra love is the way to help her behavior (and he can't stand the idea of either girls being mad at him). She is getting everything she desires AND hasnt been back to our house since the incident nor has she apologized to me. She is seeing a therapist but things are still going down the drain, the worse she is, the less consequences...its like her parents are afraid of her. She is 12 and skips classes, steals money from her mom, swears, lies, and then getting gifts, gets signed up for sports and gets to stay home on our weekends to go to parties. This weekend will be the first time either girls have been back since the incident. DH has been seeing them at their games in the evening but I have not, he takes them for ice cream and everything is rosey yet nothing has changed and it angers me so much. She continues to do what she wants because she knows she can and when she does get in trouble she threatens to kill herself. I am so sick of it but love my husband dearly but at the same time want to kill him for being like this. P.S. DH is very close and strict with my son and is now leaving him out of things a bit to spend extra energy on SD and care about my son's report card very much but didn't care that SD12 had bad grades and skipped 8 days in the last quarter of school, isnt even gonna bring it up cause it might make her mad! I don't know how to act around them this weekend, I don't even wanna be here. I feel terrible for having these feelings because our family was so great until the last year, but really bad since April-ish this year. DH keeps telling me to get over it and telling others im not that upset about it, frustrating.