So I've been with my DH for a little over 3 years. I split with my exH in 8/05 & met my DH in 11/05. I was still married when we met because our state you have to be legally separated for a year before getting divorced. So anyway, my exH and I STILL have a joint checking account. Apparently I am the only one this bothers. My ex & my DH see nothing wrong with it! I cannot remove myself from the account unless my ex signs. I could close it, but the only reason I never did (back when I was trying to get my ex to close it too) is because my ex in is the coast guard & his paycheck gets deposited into that account. He always used the excuse that he was scared they would screw up his pay if he tried to change his direct deposit (this happened once when we first got married & opened the account) So if I just closed it without him changing his pay, it would take FOREVER for the military to fix it, as was the case last time. Which means he doesn't get his money, and I don't get my cs. So for 3 1/2 years since we split, we still have this account together, his paycheck still gets deposited into it, which I then take what I need for cs & transfer him the rest to his other account. This is the only thing this account is used for. If I were my husband I would FLIP OUT over this and make him close the account. He knows this. I've offered repeatedly to just close it anyway if it bothers him & told him if the roles were reversed, I would be upset. He says its no big deal to him & he'd rather we make sure to get the cs on time since we can't make my ex change his direct deposit. I love that my husband can be so understanding...I wish I could be like that! My ex gets out of the coast guard in March so this situation will finally come to an end and I WILL be closing that account!