I can tell you right now-where I live-you could have had her job.
They're not allowed to give that information.

I wouldn't have closed the account.
My father told us daughters-to always keep a separate account from our boyfriends/husbands.
My BIL and my DH are both aware we have our own accounts-they don't care what's in them or want access to them.

Have you thought about opening an account at another bank?

That's insane. He has no right to have knowledge of ANY account he is not on. WTF??? You definitely need to investigate.

Where does your son live? If he's out of town, how about opening an account there? You can use Western Union to wire him the cash and have him deposit it into the account for you.

You have a disabled son. You closed the account that he was beneficiary on and deposited it in an account that has SD as beneficiary.

Talk to the bank manager. See a lawyer. See a therapist.

Make any excuse necessary to get out of the house and go talk to the bank manager. I'd also send an email to the national office of the bank. I'm in Canada and so I know that banking here is different than banking there but it is a chargeable offence to reveal someones banking information here and the bank has to put the money back. She should at the very least be fired.

Now because you willing moved the money into the joint account I doubt that they would give you another $6K but they should set up another account and know to keep their mouth shut.

As to why you moved the money, that's a marital thing between you and your husband.
I have a separate account and my DH knows and is fine with it. From my past with exH I need to have money that I know is mine and only mine. It gives me a sense of security.

Why can't you keep your own account wth money you earn ? WTF ? That's abuse right there !

You definitely have a legit issue with that teller. But, you have a bigger one with your DH and yourself. Why in the world did you let him bully you into moving the money?

Right now and I mean right now, open an online savings account at any bank, Capital One, Barclay's , and Sallie Mae all come to my mind as they all have relatively high interest rates, link the joint account, move YOUR money, then once it transfers, unlink the accounts. Set it up jointly with your son and have him also be the benificiary and then tell your DH to GF himself. It is YOUR money that you earned.

These situations are so sad. One person is a hideous bully and the other is beaten down to a pathetic doormat. Makes me want to scream.

I was born in CA - I lived most of my life.

There are so many places in the US where one can live for a fraction of the cost.

Just sounds like old school to me. Most of the generation over 50 was taught that the man iz the "boss" and the woman obeys orders. Something especially reinforced because back then, usually the man was the breadwinner.

That being said, I think she is being bullied and I think he's been snooping. Sounds like he found out and blamed the teller. Either that or the teller IS the BM! In fact he sounds a lot like Chef who got pissed when he found out I had a tiny work-based life ins policy for my bios.

I now have a secret will.

I work in compliance for a major bank. My recommendation would be to file a complaint with the CFPB. These complaints are taken very seriously.

Chef pulled his account from a credit union when we discovered that his nephew's ex wife was working there. She's buddy buddy with the Girhippo.

If this man really loved and cared about you, he would WANT you to have this account. You wouldn't have to keep this account secret. Your husband sounds abusive and you seem to be afraid of him??

If I were you, I would seek counseling. You need strength and fortitude to face your husband and tell him he does not rule your life.

Good luck, hun. I grew up in a small town, under 500 people. Everyone knew everyone. The town residents favorite passtime event was gossiping and tattling. Your situation is believable.

Meh its an honest mistake. No one is perfect and crap happens. Sometimes its big, sometimes its not. Not to excuse it of course. But I wouldn't want to try to get someone fired over it. I guess given your DH's reaction, I can see why you are so upset over the accidental disclosure.

I think your bigger problem is with your DH and not with the bank.

1. My DH went to an EAP counselor because they assured him it was confidential. I won't go into details but it most assuredly was NOT. His employer ended up knowing details they NEVER should have.

2. Use an online bank. There are online banks that don't even HAVE physical branches. You can use ATMs from any bank usually. Use one of those. Nobody will be telling your asshole, er - husband, ANYTHING.

3. Take that damn money back out. He is going to be relying on you more than ever and what about YOUR son? What happens if you BOTH pass away and all YOUR money that you had stashed for your SON goes to his kid instead??

You should not have lied to your husband.

You also did not need to hand over the money.

Why not just tell him you have to save the money for your disabled son? Any man with half a brain should be able to understand that.

as he bullied you into taking your own money you earned and putting it in this ‘joint’ account. It sounds like this is nothing new for him and that he has controlled a lot of stuff in y’alls lives.

First, call the bank manager and report that stupid teller. If his name is in no way on that account, she shouldn’t have given him info.

Secondly, I’d consult a lawyer. One that practices family and estate law.

Lastly, you need to open a bank account someplace else, whether out of town or online. I have a completely online savings account just so neither myself nor my H have access... it’s a great place for me to stash extra money and make some extra interest.