Let me start by saying I truly love my FDH. We have known each other since I can remember. He has a beautiful 3 yo ddaughter that I love to death, and a b!tch of an ex wife. Who cheated on him with one of his then best friends. Granted the relationship was toxic and he was anything but a perfect gentleman. They fought all the time, why they brought a child into the marriage I will never understand.

FDH and I started dating three or four months into the divorce negotiations, and moved in together a month after their divorcewas final. (I was 4 mo prego from a previous relationship.) We have been together for two and a half years, and we share one daughter with a bun in the oven.

Though I love my FDH I feel as though he compares me to his ex. This year for fathers day I wanted to get him something special, he had just purchased a new house for our ever growing family, and he works so hard for our girls and I. we were low on cash, i wanted to get him a larger BBQ, but our budget wouldnt allow me to buy a new one. I had recived a 50$ giftcard for mothers day to a mexican resturant (i hate mexicanfood.) So i found someone on CL who was willing to trade their 2yr old grill for my girft card. While i was emailing the guy about pick up times my FDH comes into the room. I finished my email quickly and exited out of my account. He emidiatly thinks the worst and jumps to i must be having an affair!! We had a talk, and i told him that i was sick of being compared to his ex,(he found out she was having an affair the day before fathers day). I am honestly NOTHING like her.

Since then he has been more cautious with how he says I'm acting. Until today... We had had some friends over on Saturday, and my sister and I were having a good time with everyone else. One of FDH's work buddies came into the house and asked a silly question, I can't remember what it was but my sister and I started giving him a hard time for his question. FDH was in the same room as we were, as was my sisters fiance. I didn't think it was a big deal.
Since Saturday FDH had been crabby and really impatient. I had asked what the matter was but he would tell me nothing. Until today, I woke up with him because I needed to use the car to go to a Dr apt this afternoon. He snapped and said to ask my mom (who's coming to watch the girls for me) if I could use hercar, cause he ddoesn't want to deal with the car situation today... I said okay, and went back to bed. He didn't tell me goodbye or I love you like he usually does before he leaves for work. Then I get a text from him saying that he didn't like how I acted Saturday night. (Apparently I seemed flirty, though my sister and her fiance were chiming in.) And he has just been so stressed out with everything and that's why he's been crabby.

I'm waiting for him to get home to discuss it further. I'm not going to talk to him over text about this. I understand work is stressful, but honestly that's the only stress he has. He doesn't pay CS, we have SD majority of the time, I take care of the girls, I clean, cook, pay bills, I feel like I'm a 50's house wife with out any of the help of a nanny. And he wonders why I'm so tired all the time, (on top of all this, I'm 4mo prego. And haven't had a full nights sleep or slept in in almost 3 years!) Like I said I understand that work can be stressful for FDH, but that is all hehas to do. He has no chores on the weekends, he doesn't even take out the trash!!

I guess I'm just frustrated. Too much building for too long. Sorry for the length. But thanks for reading.