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Submitted by masonsmom on Thu, 06/23/2011 - 8:03pm

I am so frustrated I have no clue what to do. Every time we have my SS6 my Husband and I fight. Constantly bc he doesn't like how I discipline SS6. He also says I discipline our Bs2 differently. UMMM YA they are 4 years apart and our BS doesn't understand like our SS. I feel like this is a never ending battle I am beyond annoyed that I constantly get the eye role or a comment after I say anything to SS. Oh and to top it off he called me a dungeon master and said that is how I act towards the SS. I told him he could find someone else to freakin watch him then bc I am threw. I hate it every time I say anything about the SS (even when he is not here) my husband gets defensive. What do you all so when this happens?? I could really use some advice.

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Submitted by regret88 on Thu, 06/23/2011 - 10:55pm

are we married to same guy??????????? LOL, my Dh tells me the same thing. and yes you are going to discipline your child different actually your going to discipline your child a lot harder. one you dont want them like SS and 2 it's your child. my DH does nothing with his son but yet so fast to jump me when i say something. i totally stopped talking and correcting my SS. and focused on my own child. now im letting DH step up and yell at him. now he see's what the hell i was going threw.e

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Thu, 06/23/2011 - 11:52pm

hmmmmmmmmm......maybe when you feel like disciplining the sson, instead, you let husband know quietly that you have a problem with what is going on and rather than fight, you and bs will take a short break for your piece of mind. Then either go for a drive and hit a McDonalds for a shake and the little guy to play or go to a dog park and watch people with their animals.....go do something that you're able to catch your breath and have some fun with your son.

Return home in a better mood and distance yourself from sson and dad. Be courteous, but distant.

Pretty soon, dad's not going to like being left with the kid and the skid's not going to like that you and bs leave and go somewhere special. When the sson can behave, not cause problems, then he may join you.

Until them, he can stay with dad and misbehave. You and son are away from it doing something good.

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Submitted by masonsmom on Fri, 06/24/2011 - 1:34pm

Thanks for the Advice! I really like the leaving the house with my BS ...that might just work!
MY hubby and I talked again today and he is FINALLY seeing some of my points. HE just caught the boys fighting ( like shoving and pushing) over a toy that my MIL gave her fav grandson (SS). I told him I said see SS is SMART enough to do it when we aren't looking! My BS gets blamed for being "mean" (pushing or hitting) , Which he doesn't do to any other children. So he has learned it from someone! I am just glad my husband is finally seeing this.
Last night DH wasn't home n I was putting my BS son down..I told SS to go lay down till I get bubba to bed ( same thing every time he goes to bed) WEll SS decided to throw a HUGE fit with crying the works... I say go to your room and your staying in there all night ( it was 8:30). Well when DH comes home SS goes out and sits on the couch with Dh like nothing happened. I walked out and Said What did I just tell you. He goes back to his room crying throwing a fit again. Then he is crying I just wanna see my daddy...I miss him.. ( my husband was gone for 2 hours yesterday that was it!) I told my husband that he is manipulating the situation and working him over. My husband was like no he isn't blah blah blah...so after seeing today that my SS isn't a PERFECT Angel...maybe this will help wake his but up! I am not trying to be mean...I am trying to parent! If it was my BS was 6 and threw a fit like that he would have gotten it a lot worse than the SS.