I am very excited. Hoping we can get some good suggestions for dealing with bm and mil, who both show signs of BPD. It's been making ME feel nutso trying to deal with them.

The focus of our counselor's practice is "family systems" and he has a lot of years experience. Wish me luck in adequately being able to explain the situation...

I have come to the end of my rope with all the problems between bm and dh, dh and in laws and me and in-laws. I am officially overwhelmed and it takes a LOT for me to get to that point. I pretty much broke under the pressure of it yesterday morning. I just can't do it anymore. my life with my dh has slowly developed into revolving around bm and the inlaws.

We made the decision yesterday that we will go see a family counselor to help us figure out what we can do from here.

I hate to even hope that this may be a turning point...

background - been sued by bm 3 times in the last year. still dealing with the order from the last go-round. ongoing problems with in-laws siding with BM and interfering in my relationship, dh relationship w/ kids and dh relationship (such as it is) w/ bm

yesterday dh gets mail from bm lawyer, threatening to sue again b/c they disagree with payment arrangements he made to comply with a court order. RIDICULOUS.

My Valentine's Day has already started out right - My fiance went outside to get one of my gifts from the car. On the first step he slipped and landed in a snowbank. He put his hand out to stop his fall and was up to his shoulders in snow. He said that some guy was walking on the sidewalk directly in front of the house when he bit it and laughed! Well, as soon as I saw him all snow covered just trying to get a present for me, I laughed too. Then he showed me where he fell - there are 5 perfect finger holes in the snow. That is the best start to any Valentine's Day I have ever had.