I hate to even hope that this may be a turning point...

background - been sued by bm 3 times in the last year. still dealing with the order from the last go-round. ongoing problems with in-laws siding with BM and interfering in my relationship, dh relationship w/ kids and dh relationship (such as it is) w/ bm

yesterday dh gets mail from bm lawyer, threatening to sue again b/c they disagree with payment arrangements he made to comply with a court order. RIDICULOUS.

he gets hella pissed and calls bm to find out what the hell is going on. She doesn't answer but calls back an hour later. THEY ACTUALLY TALKED LIKE RATIONAL PEOPLE (mostly)

For about an hour they both acknowledged that they way they had been doing things wasn't working. They agreed that they needed to figure out something different. he took the opportunity to ask her if she would let him make the arrangements for his kids to see his parents and if she would continue making arrangements for her own family. She tells him that his parents have been saying that he refuses them time. he set her straight and asked her if she would please not talk to them for a little while so that he could get some things straight with her and with his parents. She AGREED! Apparently they are making her uncomfortable but are also acting like they have no other recourse. She also told him that she was grateful for me and all the things I do for and with the kids.

I almost fell off the couch.

this woman is quite a liar and manipulator, but i believe that she really is tired of the bullshit. It sounds as though she really does want some things to be different. She even agreed to meet with DH and a mediator to talk about some of the miscommunication that has been going on. I guess you can't hope for more than that. I really really hope that she is sincere. If she was putting on an act, then i would be the first to nominate her for the highest acting award there is.

fingers crossed that this is a beginning of something positive.