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Submitted by Marie92 on Sat, 06/30/2007 - 8:09pm

Ok, my DH is hosting a poker tournament in our home this weekend. He invites about 20 men to come, bet and play. He told me that his son would probably want to play. I told him that it would not be appropriate because that is usually for adults. His son is always contributing to conversations with adults. He thinks he can participate and sees other adults as his peers. He sometimes says unappropriate things, even to my small children. I suggested that he not play. My DH was very offened. He got very upset and said that he doesnt like things I do for my children either. I assume he didnt allow him to play. Then, earlier today, after cleaning for company, I was getting things ready for his friends. He said that his son wanted to take a game system that is hooked up to our plasm upstairs and mess with some cable stuff. I told him that it was a bad idea considering that people were coming over and it would show all the cables behind that TV and make things look messy. I said why not tomorrow when no one is here. He got very upset again. He said that he didn't like what I do with my kids and I should do whatever I want with them. Seriously, sometimes I think it would be so much easier on my own. I feel like dealing with stuff like this isn't worth it. On our own, we're great. As soon as the kids, his or mine, usually his, enter the picture, things get tense. Don't know!!!! Help. Does anyone understand?

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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 07/01/2007 - 9:26pm

I am completely with you on this one. I would not let my DH play poker with a 13 yr old. That is way too young. My DH is awesome, but sometimes, maybe twice a year, he flips out on me whenever I comment on the skids. On our own, he is awesome. But when I say to him, for example, one time we were at a hotel, the skids (12, 14 and 17) all females, were running around in their pjs OUTSIDE our room in the parking lot, I told him that this was not appropriate, look at how many kids get kidnapped, raped etc and this was a cheap hotel, he was upset. He was also upset because I totally disapprove of the girls "changing their clothes" inside our van (the van has clear windows in the back) and they are way too big to be changing their clothes there. Ok if they were 1 and 2 yrs old. They were way too lazy to go to the girls bathroom and change. Come on, how lazy is that?? I told him there are perverts and they are way too young to be doing s*it like that. He was also upset when I totally disagreed with him about the girls watching "R" rated DVDs. And he thinks it is all right and we had world war III on that one, but of course I am only a stepmom, so he won. There has to be appropriate boundaries, so I completely understand where you are coming from. Hang in there.