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MamaTT's picture

Hello! I'm new here and in need of advice. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and recently his daughter had to move with us because her mom doesn't have a place of her own. So we switched her schools and her mom barley gets her, note: when she lived with her mom we would get her 3-4 nights out the week. Since I work from home I can put her on the bus in the mornings and afternoons but sometimes it gets overwhelming. Her moms excuse of not getting her is because she's now a manager at her job and can't take her to school nor get her from school because of work schedule. At first I was understanding but after work everyday she's hanging out with friends/at bars. I just feel like if u can make time for everyone else why not for your child. She's 9 years old and ask why her mom is always partying. Lately she's been misbehaving and acting out in school and not listening to me at all. Her mom always complaining about something stupid and I'm honestly getting fed up and don't want this to ruin our relationship and don't know what to do anymore ...seeking advice. Thanks in advance ☺️

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shamds's picture

Plenty of parents both work and figure out how to get their kids to school. This doesn't involve stepparent as an unpaid babysitter. She didn't have a home before but she seems to have one now. Hit her back with you'll apply to courts for child support for her to cover expenses since she refuses to be responsible.

when she hears that she'll magically be capable of sorting out logistics quickly of getting her kid to and from school during her custody time that doesn't involve you

JRI's picture

Ultimately, this is your BF's problem because if you weren't there, he'd have to cope.  Does he have a custody agrerment that spells everything out?  Does she pay CS? If he doesn't have a legal agreement, that's where to start.

What does he say about the recent misbehavior?  Is he  addressing it?

MamaTT's picture

He address the behavior and punishes her. And they have joint custody but he had joint custody before she moved here but I'll definitely bring up an legal agreement. Thank you 

AgedOut's picture

of course she's acting out, it gets her attention from her mom. what sucks is that it all comes out directed at you and her dad.