This actually made me feel a little sad for SO
Last night we're sitting in the living room and both look out the window at just the right moment to see SO's daughter out on a walk with crazy CP BM's crazy boyfriend. You could tell she was just chattering away to him. SO just made a sort of disgusted sound, his general reaction to the boyfriend, but I think it had to have stung to see his daughter hanging out with him.
SO had originally planned on taking her somewhere last night but stayed home to work instead. He planned on taking her out so that I wouldn't "get stuck seeing her" (you can just picture what tone of voice that gets said in), since he knows I have disengaged but he can't get past thinking it's just because I don't like her (it's actually about guilty, permissive parenting and that I don't want to be around someone who doesn't like me). He wanted to see her a couple nights this week since he actually consented to go out of town with me this weekend (our first weekend alone since we've lived together over 1 1/2 years). So since I just asked for the courtesy of him letting me know which nights it would be, I get the "don't worry, you won't get stuck seeing her" response.
So probably in his mind so that I "won't get stuck seeing her", she's hanging out with a man who is not him. Or possibly that is something I just put on myself and he's thinking no such thing. I overthink, he underthinks...Either way, I think we should talk this through a little more so that he understands I'm not just anti-SD. He's about sick of relationship talk, though.
One thing is absolutely certain, and that is that our lives would be greatly improved if BM and her BF didn't live right down the street.
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Well, we just found out that
Well, we just found out that BM is sleeping with our neighbor, and bragging on FB that she wants to post pictures of the neighborhood for all of the neighbors to see (meaning us). I really don't know why she thinks we would really care-I mean, someone has to sleep with her. Crackheads need love too.
I am sure DH is going to have a harder time dealing with this than I am.
Yep - Feel your pain. The
Yep - Feel your pain. The Bitch lives in the subdivision across the street from us. I think their should be a law that you leave the guy you have to live at least 5 miles away....
It sucks on a daily basis...
So how do you handle it?
So how do you handle it?
If there weren't a curve in
If there weren't a curve in the road that makes it so that we can't see their house, I absolutely could not do it. It's hard enough as it is...
SO doesn't pick up the phone when BM blows it up calling 5-10 times in a row? Guess who's in the driveway? SO sucks at enforcing boundaries with her (doesn't want to cause a flare up of her craziness), so having such close physical proximity does not help.
The one thing I can do for myself is to try not to let her take up space in my head or my life. If she gets to me- then she wins. Unfortunately this works better in theory than in actuality and I tend to let it eat at me.
On the other hand, skid exchanges are simple.
I don't handle it well.
I don't handle it well. Other than to go off on DH when something occurs because of the proximity. Last week, I was behind her on the road leading to our subdivisions. She decided to drop to a crawl until she turned off.
I send DH an email that I want to move or else offer to buy her house from her so she will move. He ignores my rant. So you can see I do not handle it very good. These things are daily occurences. We are a golf cart community and we take lots of walks and have had to change our route so we don't run into her or the kids. But, we still do....Last month his daughter almost ran us off the cart path and just barely said hello to her Dad. They have no relationship because of BM. You would have to go back a year in my blogs to get background....
I would move and the plan is to sell the houses ( I rent one out) and move away once the last kid has left for college. 5 years and I am done.....
that is also our plan. BM
that is also our plan. BM doesn't live across the street,but if she thinks this guy might be any kind of meal ticket she will be soon. DD doesn't graduate for 3 more years, and I don't know if I can deal for that long.
The good thing is that we have MAJOR boundaries with her. If she was ever stupid enough to step foot on my property, I would beat the hell out of her. I guess to me she really looks pathetic-I mean, its one thing to date our neighbor. Its another to brag all over FB that she wants to take outside pictures so we can all see the neighborhood (and figure out that she is sleeping with the neighbor) I would be embarrassed to go trolling around my old neighborhood with my ex still living there. But I am somewhat normal. LOL