What's worse: Knowing the skids are coming, or being "surprised?"
Personally, I hate the not knowing. If only because I like to know in advance about everything.
On the other hand, knowing in advance that the skids are coming just puts me in a prolonged state of anxiety.
I bring this up because I just looked at the August schedule and SS is coming BACK next weekend. I seriously feel like :sick:
OMG. 
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I want to know so I can hide
I want to know so I can hide the snack food & sodas before they eat it all. I also hide any new things we have bought since skids like to comment on how much money we spend since CS stopped. I also want time to strip the guest room of all the stuff they would destroy given a chance. Skids are 22 and 20 but have no respect for any property. So before they come I take the guest room down to bare bones and make the bed with the oldest sheets and comforters. DH is the type of manly man who never notices stuff like this.
Sometimes when I am feeling particularly pissed off at something skids have done (like begging for money after refusing to get a job), I make it a point to cook something skids hate. This is easy since they only eat pizza, fast food & sweets. So I will make a great meal with a roast, salad and vegetables. Then watch as skids eat only the rolls with their noses wrinkled up while DH and my bios raved about the great meal. I guess I am an evil SM, cause this makes me really happy.
I like to know beforehand
I like to know beforehand too, just to sort of "brace myself". I also hide things that I would like to keep. However hiding things we've bought has crossed my mind (since they go back to BM's house and tell psycho that we bought new stuff, then psycho calls DH demanding money because "you can afford x, y, and z.) But no, let it eat at her. I'd like to say to her, "You see, Psycho BM, we can afford occasional nice things because we work and don't sit on our fat asses eating junk food, drinking beer, and doing nothing all day while the working class supports us through welfare." But then she'd just whine about how she won't look for a job because she's trying to finish school. Aww, poor poor psycho... I pitty you SO much (not). Oh and she only goes to class when she feels like it. Nice huh?
Anyway, I can understand hiding things you don't want the skids to break! Been there, done that too.
yes, I would rather know in advance rather than be surprised by it (which has happened a couple of times.)
Wait... I DID say something
Wait... I DID say something along those lines to her once! I usually bite my tongue, but after years of biting it.. it starts to hurt!
She was (for the millionth time) trying to make hubby feel guilty for buying the kids something nice for xmas a few years back. Hubby was doing the skids laundry at that time because she didn't have washer/dryer. He had simply asked her if she could please rinse out SS's underwear before she sent them over full of POOP (No, seriously. If he shit his pants, she sent the underwear with turds & all and they were clogging up my washer!!!!)
He mentioned that she could rinse them out in the toilet, or get a bucket. She told him, "You get a bucket. You have all the money. You can afford to buy nice things for the kids, I think you can afford a bucket."
That's when I finally let go of my tongue... I said, "Yeah. It's nice to have jobs & be able to buy the kids nice things occasionally."
She was LIVID!! Thinking about it now makes me smile hehe.
I feel the same way, but I
I feel the same way, but I think I would rather know so I can try to prepare myself, seriously. SD popped in last week unannounced and completly threw me off! I did not like it at all! But I hate knowing when she is coming too bc I dread it, and I have anxiety and it ruins my day knowing she's coming. I just try and keep busy.