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Feeling very much like an outsider..this week

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This has been a funny week between hubby I & SD..

SD & I have been getting along fine and there has been no arguing or issues between hubby & I...but something is off.

Last week Hubby & I decided to not go to the Eastern Canadian softball tournament out of province..that we would take a couple days for ourselves instead maybe rent a cottage for the weekend. (He kept asking me if we're going..you decide..it didn't matter to him either way.)

Still no contact from X or son..

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BF told my son Thursday morning when his Dad took him "to call your mother & let her know what's going on".

I also left a voice message on X's cell phone..early Thursday Evening for x to call me. It's Saturday...I've heard nothing from either one of them.

I'll call his family...and see if they know what's going on..

Anything to piss me off.......

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Well..my X was supposed to pick up the 10 yr old for his weekend visit. Through the child, I was informed on Tuesday that x would be picking him up Thursday morning....2 days notice..

At the door ... x tells 10 yr old ..to take his bike..they're going away for 2 weeks!!!!

My hubby called me at work yesterday to tell me my son would not be returning home for 2 weeks

I was not informed..there was no arrangments made or notices given..the kid has 4 days worth of clothes ... to last him 2 weeks.

I called x last night....his phone was shut off!!!!

I'm coming at this from a bio-mom point of view..

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The problems with daughter & Dad began when he got a girlfriend 1 1/2 yr ago now(moved in with thier Dad a few months after the kids new about her). Partly because "Dad" time now had to be shared with this other person..but more-so because HIS behaviour changed.

I'm coming at this from a bio-mom point of view..based on what the kids tell me and my own observations....

Initially ..the kids really really liked Dads' GF....son still does.. daughter has mixed feelings..(I think she likes her but is also jealous of her)

The 13 yr old is more mature than her DAD!

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I really think the 13 yr old is more mature than her father!!!

The kids Dad...just finished blowing them off for his July 1st long weekend..to party with his buddies..as usual.. They are just as happy hanging out with their freinds, too... I've told him in the past..."You've taught them over the last 4 yrs that it's OK to blow-off visits for your social life...dont' come crying to me now to fix your screw-ups!!"

Bonusfamilies...have you checked it out?

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What do you think?
I think it's amazing that these two woman have come together the way they have.

Do you think you could work with your husbands x?

My x's girlfreind...I could work with her..& she me..I think we can each contribute things to the kids..like they talk about on the web-site!!

As far as hubby's X she is INSANE so no for me on that count!

I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on this...

He doesn't want to see the woman he hates in the children he loves...

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BF's x is a master manipulator. She knows a persons weakness's and plays on it. She can be very sweet and charming when it suits her purposes as well...she's very self serving and very, very good at it.

(In general it seems that men seem are more susceptable to these ploys..they don't have many (any) female freinds...SD's & Mom )

Here's a little background of what we were up against with nut-job x...

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She is nasty, evil vengeful, she has no conscience, no empathy, I honestly, truly believe she suffers from Narcessitic Personality Disorder to do what she did and then be out to get him for having the nerve to leave her. Tell the lies she did..manipulate the kids against him..try to ruin him..sabbatoge our house purchase..etc.

Don't forget that X began having extra-marital affairs in 97 via internet chat rooms and continued until 2001 until he ended the marriage.

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