Honeymoon and the BM??? Advice???
Future DH and I are going to go for 2 weeks (right after the wedding) to our honeymoon.
When/Should we let BM of future SD7 know that it is for the honeymoon and how long we will be gone for? I am nervous because he is filing today asking for additional custodial time (hopefully two weeks on and two weeks off) and a reduction in CS due to the "equalization" payments he has to pay (even after she bankrupted him 
so much for anything being equal) Thank you so much for any and all advice.
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Well I guess it depends on
Well I guess it depends on your situation. If you are leaving soon, I would let her know. She has to find out sooner or later, but if you think it will cause a lot of drama I would wait until it gets closer. Also it would be helpful to tell SD and chat with her about it. I would tell SD first as a family. Then I would let BM know. When you talk to SD first it might be helpful because you can start the idea off in a positive fashion! Good Luck
Why do you have to tell her
Why do you have to tell her at all? I don't know what the dynamic is but it would seem to me that it will cause more anxiety for you and being a new bride is anxiety filled enough as it is. You should be thinking about you and your future husband right now. The only person I think it entitled to know is your future SD. It really isn't any of Bm's business
Maybe an option might be For
Maybe an option might be For her to stay with grandparents or An aunt with cousins or some other family member for part of the time that she would normally be with you guys. If that's a
possibility.
I know when ever we want a kidless weekend we"ll let the
kiddos stay with my sister and her family it's a special treat and we do the same for my sister & her hubby once in awhile too.
This also eliminates bm being involved.
BTW-
Congrats to you and yours. Hope you have a fantastic honey moon.
Biological stepmom (Crystal)
Thank you all so much for the
Thank you all so much for the advice! This site and the caring members on it are really an asset for me! FutureSD7 knows the where (name of island) and the length but as she is 7 she hasn't really figured it out. We don't leave for another month so I guess we will see if BM pry's it out of her with her endless interrogations of SD
.
But on a really happy note, future SD said that she doesn't "love" me but that she does "like" me. I think the fact it was her long stay Thursday-Monday night with her mother was filled with another cat (that makes 4) and "new" friend who is "staying there every night with mommy because her boyfriend was beating her up" :jawdrop: I told futureSD that love i her, but that love was a gift and that she didn't "have" to love me but maybe someday she would. Respect, however, is an entirely other thing
BM and honeymoon should not
BM and honeymoon should not even be in the same sentence IMHO. Your DH doesn't have to tell BM anything other than "We will be out of town from X to Y".
That's it. No explaination, nothin!!!!
Congrats on your pending nuptials and enjoy your honeymoon.