So I started this step parenting thing three years ago. I have two sons 8 1/2 and 3 1/2of my own so the parenting thing isn't a new thing. I know it could've been worse. Then again, SS is only three years old and we have many more years to live. BM= crazy/lazy. I don't know if the scales tip more to one side than the other and feel as though lazy might be worse than crazy.

SS Dad is somewhat passive. We are able to have open discussions but sometimes feel like I have to be way too specific just to get information that is important out of him. We have been dragged to court by BM and had CPS called...unfounded and a waste of time. We are learning how to be step parents together and many of our conversations are about our children, house rules, expecations we have for oneanother and everyday life.

We run a madhouse. We literally have children highfiving one another out the door and in the door. We have one child in the home 100 percent of the time. He is our test kid. With so many transitional times throughout the week, communication and preplanning is essential. We are working on it.

Both children that leave the home go to homes with very little to no expectations from them. I have been doing the transition for the past 7 1/2 years with my older son. Just a quick reminder of "welcome home" is all it takes now but the years prior were painful. I am noticing that my SS comes home and it takes him until nearly the last day with us for him to readjust and function with the rest of the family. He literally comes home and stares for a good 4 days before he starts to interact and react when talked to.

Just maybe it will get easier.
Just maybe, with time, we will all respect oneanother.
Just maybe I will think more positively about the situation.
Just maybe we will get it right.