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LizzersBG's picture

Just sitting here looking out at the rain.
Dishes are done, dishwasher running, baby sleeping, and as usual my mind wanders to the upcoming mediation appointment.
The appointment that I was not invited to. This worries me. I hope my H can hold his own against a woman who wants nothing more than to shove him out of the way and shut the door. I can just see him sitting there, across the table thinking about how stupid he was when he was 19, wondering if SS is biologically his, thinking to himself that all of this is for nothing. Yes, it is for the life of a child and he & I greatly enhance this child's life when we get the chance.
Been going through baby pics of everyone lately too, noticing that SS looks like no one, even in the extended family. DH tells me that all these years he has been harboring a secret:
When he met BM he had only known her about 7 1/2 months and SS was born. Now that he thinks back BM was pregnant when he slept with her Sad
I do not question him but think to myself:
"What?""What did he just say?????????"
Now I am sitting here thinking.
Has anyone else dealt with an issue regarding paternity or known someone who has?
I'm starting to think we don't need the upcoming mediation-we need a home DNA kit.
I don't really know what I think. I think one way and then think another way. I have had family members of his talk to me about this before but I never said a word to him. Come to find out it has been his suspicion all along.

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TheSaneOne's picture

If he loves him, as I am sur he does, it won't matter. The judge may even continue to make him pay support since he might have known all along.
My ex never thought his son was his and he looks nothing like him, but he lvoed him so it didn't matter.
My cousin met her DH when she was three months preggo but she told him. The baby has his last name and he is on the birth certificate. They got married 9 years ago when the baby was still an infant. Thats her daddy and their only child. They lost a son together. Sometimes love, is thicker than blood.

Praying -

LizzersBG's picture

I agree.
I don't think we will ever say a word.
It really isn't about all of that. Obviously there
were reasons she didn't tell someone else, and I would imagine
those reasons had something to do with the crowd she was running
around with at the time.
I am not going to go on a "trip" with this.
If it becomes a trip, I will leave.
That would be the last straw.

Gmama's picture

i'm not sure how this works where you live but if you sign a R.O.P.
recignition of parenting that is pretty much declining a paternity test, if he signed one at the hospital im not sure if he can change it? or have any testing done,i think its a pretty strong document

stepwitch's picture

If its not lightening bad, go relax in a hot bath. If your presence was not requested, then its not your problem to worry about. Try something like focus on your man now, what he needs from you is support. Yeah, he probably will forget al the little things, but the big things he won't, like u $ the baby. All you need to do is show him how you feel, not tell him. Action to a man is equivalent to a long emotion talk to a woman. Hope I'm making sense here. Let us know how it turns out.

Stepwitch
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