Thank you all for your input and kind words! I truly appreciate it! There were so many so ill respond to you all through another post.
My sd is 2 1/2. She calls me mommy. We did not tell her to do so and when we correct her she throws a fit. She knows my name is livingthehighlife and she calls me that from time to time. But she prefers to call me mommy and will yell, cry, hit, if she is told any differently.she is extremely attached to me where she cried bloody murder when I leave her for work, errands, anything. And breaks my heart the pain in her eyes and the crying she does when she leaves us to go back to BM.
Yes I think about my future and I love this child like I love all children and she deserves the best. And that's love from anyone who wants to give it to her.
Her mother had moved 6 times since she was born. Kept her from her father for a total of 8 months. Lived with an abusive bf and told court she was done with him but dh has seen his car leaving from her current house. Had blisters on her but from diaper rash. Stinks when we get her. Bm didn't bring her to a doctor for over a year and when dh found out he was furious and started taking her himself (he didn't before because he just recently got 50/50 custody and only had her EOW). Now she is the perfect mom and tries to beat him and take her before him resulting in her lying to the doctor and getting her double doses on a shot. The place she loves now is with her friend, her friends bf and her friends mom and her friends son. She shares a room with her and sleeps in the same bed with her (which isn't a problem) except for the fact she used to have a bed for the baby at the bf house and now she does not so we are wondering if she really loves there seeing as dh says the room does not looked very lived in. No transportation. Lied about multiple things to the judge including income, lack f support from dh, and daycare (she wasn't in daycare but wanted more child support so said she was) didn't know who the father was and didn't find out who he wa until baby girl was 4 months old. Was a super cool BM until she realized she couldn't get dh to leave me to make a happy family with her (she was a one night stand after a night of drinking) Poor baby completely panics and shuts down if she and I even disagree. He can't even tickle me without thinking he's abusing me. Dcf was called on her for attacking the bf with baby girl in her arms but they said she was a fit mother if she left the environment and lived in a clean place. Got kicked out of one of her houses because she was taking the child out at 2-3am and the owner expressed to her her worry about sd and bm threatened to fight her stung don't tell me how to raise my child.
She is a complete daddy's girl. Whenever he picks her up she runs to the door SCREAMING daddy daddy!!!!!
But she just panics when I leave her. Idk why she is so attached to me other than I show unconditional love to her. As I do to all children I come into contact with. She's threatened tonight me and cussed me out in front of the baby. And the list goes on and on.

We just feel she would do better living with us full time seeing as when her mother took her away for 4 mo to she came back silent and since then we've taught her to talk, count, and she's doing very well in potty training.
Again I know court doesn't like to change current custody plans but it is essential in our case because we live 2 hours away from bm so when sd starts school she will need to live with one of the parents full time.

Again, please no hurtful and mean comments!! And I thank you again for allowing me to speak to you all glad to be a part of the steptalk community