Yesterday afternoon our DS17 had 2 friends over. He and his Dad (DH) had been on a 2 week vacation to Mexico and returned late Sunday night.

He and his friends made some sandwiches and were going to go to the Pool in our community but it was really dirty. So they just decide to hang out at the house. DS is 17 and his 2 friends are 18 and 20. The 18 year old just graduated high school and his Girl friend is a little older then him.

SD26 STB27 was also home. She is expecting to go into the police academy in November. She has a Bachelors degree in Criminal justice. Hopefully she will launch while in the academy or shortly after. I know most of you think she needs to be gone and I agree. Whole different story whole different topic. Please do not offer any feed back on this situation. I know the situation is due to poor parenting.

Now for "Am I expecting too much"

So DS and SD were at home and DS had friends over. DS gave the 18 year old a wine cooler. Not sure where it came from as I don't drink them. Could have been SD's. Anyway it doesn't matter who it belonged too. After drinking at our house DS and friends went to the girlfriends house. Girlfriend drove. SD knew all along what was going on. DS called me at 4:30pm and told me he was going to XYZ's house and would get a ride home later. I get home about 6:30pm and only SD is home. I change my clothes and begin preparing dinner. Dinner is done and every body but DS is home. It was very hot yesterday so I went outside to cool off before sitting down to eat. I come in the house to fix my plate and am told that DS gave alcohol to a minor at our house. SD is telling this to DH. She text him this as well right before he came home. DD tells me, while all but me are sitting down at the table. At about 8pm, I eat my dinner and text DS to tell me where he is because I need to pick him up. I went to get him and chewed him a new one on the way home. He is now not allowed to have friends over without me or his Dad at the house.

So....
1.Would you guys be pissed that SD didn't tell you what was going on when you arrived home.
2.Would you also believe that with her background and with her wanting to be a police officer she would understand how it could effect her as the only adult at home.
3.The fact she is almost 27 years old and the fact that DS is her half bro that she would say something to him.
4. Stop the kid from drinking. Understand I am in no way blaming her but as the only adult at home at the time and the direction she is taking in her life common sense would tell me that she should have stopped it once she knew it was happening.

Am I Expecting Too Much?