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Just More of the Same...

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Submitted by lily11 on Tue, 09/06/2011 - 7:55am

After all that, it just turns out that the same patterns of behavior keep repeating themselves.

Long story short, CPS closed ss15's case. They ended up saying that they can't verify neglect or abuse. The attorneys say that because ss15 is 15 and doesn't want to live with us, it would be next to impossible for DH to get him. DH was heartbroken at the outcome over all this because he was so excited at the prospect at having his son live with us. It's a sad situation.

Now What? I Really Need Advice.

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Submitted by lily11 on Sat, 08/20/2011 - 4:45pm

Long story short, things are getting out of control with ss15 and BM with bipolar disorder. DH has been told in the past by our attorney, a good attorney, that despite the issues, it would be next to impossible to get custody of ss15. Now CPS is involved and they are strongly advising DH to talk to an attorney again, which he plans to do Monday morning. They also say that if they are called one more time they will take ss15 and he will become custody of the state and handed over to DH.

Defining Disengaging

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Submitted by lily11 on Wed, 08/10/2011 - 11:05am

I've been asking myself where is there a middle ground. How can I keep from letting myself getting back into angry mode without completely shutting out anything related to ss15? How can I keep from being too nice and too emotionally vulnerable? How can I maintain control over my own attitude and behavior despite ss15 and BM's behavior?

After reading my blog yesterday, reading the responses and then reading many other commments here, I did a lot of thinking.

Don't want to be angry all the time

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Submitted by lily11 on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 9:18am

I have read this a lot on this website, about not wanting to feel angry all the time. This must be a pretty normal experience as a step parent.

I feel like my story is pretty similar to a lot of others I read on here.

ss15 is rude... angry and complaining most of the time... disrespectful much of the time to everyone... lazy and refuses to be helpful... resents me being around... tries to start trouble between me and DH... I feel that DH really does do the best he can with ss15 and the best he can to be understanding of my situation as well.

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