My skids are pretty lazy and make messes worse than toddlers. When they take a shower at night, they leave it dirty and the bathroom in shambles. They fight and argue and get into trouble. And they are not the most respectful little humans either. At 12 and 13, you'd think they'd be better--more civilized. But they're not.

So DH is supposed to start on nights this week. We had what I thought was a reasonable schedule...we agreed how to handle his kids and what was going to happen. So then last night he tells me that bm is picking up the skids today after dinner and taking them home with her...because tomorrow ss12 has summer sports camp at 7:30 am. Ok, thats cool...I get that these are their kids and they can decide what to do with them and whatever...and I even give them both credit for not sticking me with the dropoff/pickup detail when I have to be at work by 8:30.

Well if things weren't bad enough, my mom went into the hospital Friday. After spending my weekend there with her, it turns out she is passing more kidney stone pieces...and all the stress of my older brother's passing has caused her to develop shingles...and if that's not enough they found a spot on her lung while doing all this testing (my brother died from lung cancer). So all is bad on the mom front.

So many women on here talk about going along with their bf/dh when they pickup/drop off their kids at the bm's house...or having to go along to whatevers that involve the bm.
I give everyone so much credit for doing that. I haven't gotten the nerve yet to insist that I come too.
I feel very conflicted. It's like, I know why we go with the men to whatever the bm has going on...we need to protect our investment in the relationship and to let the bm's know that we are not going to go away or let them get away with the crap they try to pull.