husband leaving me for disengaging
After trying to explain and understand the situation, H is leaving me basically for disengaging. The final straw was bc i have stopped telling everyone when supper is done. I told him that since he is home he can do it. Especially since he is closed minded about therapy I assume this is it for us after 3 years and a 2yr old later. Really, we are letting a brat come btw us. Unbelieveable!
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WOW!
WOW! :jawdrop:
HIS loss!
HIS loss!
He's just mad right now
He's just mad right now MazzyStar because she wouldn't do what he wanted so he's going to pay her back, hasn't even thought about who's going to raise his kids onces she's gone yet, because he is obvioulsy so damn selfish that all he can think about right now is, she made him call them to dinner. God some women are just plain rotten wives aren't they
Still by the time he tells some other poor unsuspecting woman how bad a wife she was, it won't be long before he has another woman in the job. Well in the short term till she wakes up too.
Sorry you are going through this, but you deserve a partner in a husband you are not his housekeeper and he should have taken some responsibility in the home. Hope you are well.
He's lucky you even made
He's lucky you even made dinner. Jerk.
sounds like you are better
sounds like you are better off without him. he wants a maid and a babysitter, not a wife. to hell with him. he can hire and PAY for a maid and a babysitter, you and your child deserve better than this douchebag.
He will almost certainly have
He will almost certainly have the same issue with his next gf/wife - sooner or later he will have to start looking at himself instead of blaming the woman.
At the end of it all, that is
At the end of it all, that is only for controlling you..."If you don't do what I WANT, I will leave you..." Read "Co-Dependent NO MORE!"
i really hope that we can
i really hope that we can come to some sort of conclusion. He talked to his sister last night and seemed more calm afterwards. She sees both sides of things and also sees SS actions. Hopefully once i get into therapy in a couple of weeks he will see its doing good and join me. I keep asking what exactly he expects form me but he doesnt answer. He is a good man or I wouldnt have married him. He jst dont understand why I dont want to raise his son.
They don't' have an answer
They don't' have an answer because if they say it, it sounds ridiculous. They want it their way, the easy way. For you to give in to everything and turn a blind eye because they do. Some people just don't have it in them. I don't involve myself with SD at all anymore. I can tell he sees it a lot lately. BUT he reneged on our agreement about some rules. He snuck behind my back letting her do things we said she shouldn't. She became disrespectful again to me, and when I raised the concern to him, his response was "I could say something, but I don't think it will do any good"
Right then I moved back in to disengaging. He hates it, but he made that choice for me when he decided to ignore her behavior and sneak behind my back. I will not be treated like shit in my home and I will not be made to feel uncomfortable AND I most certainly won't let her think I'm nobody around here and made to look stupid when daddy rescues her from AA's rules. Dad can deal with SD on his own since that his how he choose to play it.
I really see where you are coming from. I've had some very low points in our relationship fighting only about SD. She's not worth it. Disengaging from her and from SO about her has given me so much freedom and peace of mind.
"They want it their way, the
"They want it their way, the easy way. For you to give in to everything and turn a blind eye because they do"
BINGO!!
I am so sorry. I really am. I
I am so sorry. I really am. I think you did the right thing and please don't question yourself. He really is being a bully and he is trying to push you to do something you do not want to. My SO started looking at apartments when I told him to parent or lets end it. I guess he thought I'd cave??
I didn't. A half hour later, he says I guess you aren't asking me to do something that I shouldn't already be doing. Just let things flow. You have made your decision. You can't control him and he certainly shouldn't feel like he can control you.
He's doing you a HUGE
He's doing you a HUGE favour!! I so wish GG would say "this is your house; things aren't working out; you hate my kids" blah blah and just LEAVE!!