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DH is Being Proactive!!!!

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Wed, 01/20/2016 - 11:55am

DH filled out the child support modification paperwork and faxed it in today. All by himself!!!! With minimal reminding from me!!!!!

I am shocked and so very proud. Now we get to wait and see what happens next.

At least the scream call from BM is at least a few days away.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Wed, 01/20/2016 - 12:13pm

Nice. My hubby has been saying he's going to file for child support for the last year. Has he done it? Nope.

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Submitted by tlsdk on Wed, 01/20/2016 - 12:39pm

There is hope. I wish my DH would do the same.

One of the two skids has been with us 85% of the time for almost a year, and BM and SD were living in DHs house for about six months. Yet DH can't remember to contact DHS about child support. Meanwhile SS is eating us out of house and home, and we're paying for everything but his cell phone. While BM moves from one family members house to the next, works fulltime, gets full child support for two kids, but only keeps one, who happens to work also, and is less than four months from 18!

DH thinks she will magically stop asking for her check when SD turns 18. I don't think so.

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Wed, 01/20/2016 - 3:56pm

He mentioned SD's special needs and resulting constant therapy bills as a reason to get the amount of medical expenses BM pays changed too.

I was so proud. Now we will see what happens.

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Thu, 01/21/2016 - 6:17am

Well, I was planning on it but the kids both have a field trip today and I volunteered to bring snacks for half the school (DH asked if I was drunk or high when I agreed to this, I said I was neither just crazy) so I was busy getting those together last night and he was fed leftover homemade vegetable soup. I was also planning on the other but we are both fighting off a pretty rough cold soooo.......that's what happened to that.

I think men are so used to paying child support that if they suddenly get custody they are just happy not to pay it anymore. I think that's crap. It is BM's responsibility to help support her child whether she likes it or not. Especially when so much of her responsibility has been dumped in my lap. Over my dead body is she dumping the financial support of her kid in my lap to. I'm of the opinion that if they don't want to pay child support they are welcome to sign over their rights.