Cracks in the veneer
So I spent last week, for the most part, in Las Vegas. Don't be jealous, the trip as a whole was a nightmare and the trip back was literally the most awful experience of my life (it involved two annoying children in the seats in front of me and a woman who defecated on herself and the seat next to me....needless to say I have a phobia of fecal matter and spent most of the plane ride throwing up in the air sick bag but trying to do so quietly so as not to embarass her.)
For the entire trip I missed the skids, I missed the SO and I couldn't wait to be home. I'm not sure what happened because I got home and all hell seems to have broken loose. Or maybe it was just that I really enjoyed waking up in a bed without having to bathe and dress and deal with four kids. Maybe I really enjoyed the fact that while I was gone SO and I texted and said wonderfully meaningful things to each other and now we are back to the grind I am too exhausted to even think about sex, let alone talk about it.
But mostly I think it's because BM is prevented from contacting us and hasn't for several days. She had a court hearing last week in the divorce case and stopped us from being able to sell anything else in the house. Fine, fuck you, you clean the place out if you ever get released from the mental institution you delusional bitch. And so all weekend long she was demanding and a total god damned nightmare to deal with. She was emboldened and now we can't seem to get out from under it. Yet again the house is a disaster and we can't do anything about it one way or the other so we are stuck......
The upside of this anger is that she is in treatment and we won't hear from her for 30 days, but it terrifies me when she goes off grid. I know it's stupid to think that she will get custody just because we live in sin, but seriously this woman gets away with everything. So she gets to fuck him over, fuck the kids over and take up valuable real estate in my brain. It's enough to make me want to molotov cocktail her life. God, I know I am horrible to ask, but would it really be hard to just give her an anuerysm or something already? Great, now I am going to have to pray for forgiveness and I am a fucking atheist.
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So you cant sell anything in
So you cant sell anything in the house.......how about donating it to a good will shop? You could possibly buy it back and then sell it?
Is it possible to box
Is it possible to box everything up and put it in the basement or garage?
Could you contact her parents or family and have them pick the stuff up?
My other thought would be renting a pod or storage unit and putting all her stuff in there but then you'd get stuck with that bill.
Just MHO.
~BettyRay
He's still in the process of
He's still in the process of the divorce. He filed it a year ago but she has delayed and dragged her feet. They have had 6 mediation sessions set and she has failed to show for every one. Now she's been committed, her attorney fired her and she has a GAL appointed to her. She is also under a guardianship with her parents in a separate action.
We sold a bunch of stuff before the judge put the nonhypothecation order in place. Everything was accounted for and placed in a separate account to pay bills. Her recent hospitalizations have run somewhere in the neighborhood of 35,000. She had a vehicle in both their names that she trashed and cashed and it was turned over to the bank. She did more than $5,000 damage to that and they are now 9,000 upside down in the car loan. She blames him.
The house in foreclosure because she told him she got a forebearance on the home loan before the court kicked her out. She was living there in the basement but her excessive drinking and physical assaults on him caused safety issues and the court ejected her from the home. The house is set for auction on the 16th of this month and she is trying to delay it by going through the deed for lease program but she can't qualify because she doesn't have a job and now is locked up for the next 60 days at least in treatment. We have to get everything out of the house in the next thirty days, we already have two storage units we are paying for for the things we got out of there. But she was a therapist at one time so all of her patient files are there. There is still a ton of furniture there too and the court won't allow us to sell, transfer or donate anything. My apartment is too small for all of the things left in the house and we can't afford another storage unit. Her parents are refusing to pick up anything and have washed their hands of her.
We have a motion before the court asking them to reconsider the nonhypothecation order because we simply don't have a choice but to get rid of things. It's a complete nightmare but he and I talked last night and since she filed the motion, and if the judge refuses to reconsider, we are going to mail her the keys at treatment and let her know it's her problem. SO is likely to have to file for bankruptcy when this is all said and done with, but that is something he will have to deal with.
I just don't understand how any person can be so delusional. She signed off on papers to sell it after delaying that for six months and by then the house was in foreclosure. She has little to no concept of reality and we will end up getting stuck in the end. Ugh......
Wow. That's a tough one. Once
Wow. That's a tough one. Once the house goes to auction due to the foreclosure- doesn't the new buyer of the home acquire what's left in there? Where is BM going to live once she's out of treatment?
I guess I'd say that it's up to BM to secure her belongings. & I guess I'd say BM is SOL on this one. He's legally separated. That makes him responsible for himself & she's responsible for herself. So it should be left up to her to secure her belongings.
If call your attorney for clarification on what to do, I guess.