This is why I say "not my kid not my problem"
SO has been super lazy in regards to doing what his kids need. He applied for kid care (state insurance) because he's unemployed and BM swears she doesn't have them on it (She does I've shown him the proof and she lied to the judge about it)These kids haven't had regular medical care in 4 years (and they are 6 and 7) and his son is in desperate need of dental care (rotting baby teeth) SO isn't pushing her providing their medical card, is refusing to call her on lying and perjury, and is not bothering to call and harp on his case worker to expedite him getting them covered now that he is residential parent. I flat out told him "This is why I say what I say and refuse to do or be involved with your kids, I'm not going to give more of a shit about kids who's own parents don't care. Don't pretend you are the better parent when you let your kids suffer medically, I'm about ready to report this as medical neglect if you don't step it up" I'm pissed these kids deserve health care, dental care, and parents who care. SO needs to back off trying to parent my kids and worry about his own.
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It never ceases to amaze me
It never ceases to amaze me the common thread that so many of our dumbass partners share.
I did ALL the research and nagged SO until he got nowSS9 into much needed counseling. This kid could barely read, his ADHD and his meds were completely out of whack and NOT working, and he was on the brink of getting kicked out of 1st grade. Now he is entering 3rd grade at normal levels and graduated from his IEP program.
I again did research and nagged SO until he got then SS8 and SD9 to their very FIRST dental appointment!
I told SO that thenSD13 needed counseling or therapy or SOMETHING because she was getting older and was going to be getting in serious trouble if something wasn't done about it. Only after getting busted for having sex with 2 boys in under 2 months (when she was 14), and having a secret FB page with GRAPHIC GRAPHIC sexual messages, does SO now have SD15 in counseling.
GRRRRRR....I'm getting all fired up just remembering this crap. But you are right on Lalena. If their own parents don't give a crap, why should you? It's SOOOOOOO hard to watch it happen in front of your eyes. As a nuturing and caring parent yourself, who WOULDN'T be bothered by it? That's one reason why SO and I split....I just couldn't stand to watch future teenaged pregnancies and/or STDs and future burger-flippers in the making unfold right in front of me, and me helpless to do anything but stand on the sidelines and watch it all go down.
BM has with held access to
BM has with held access to the kids for several years. He had no idea they had no regular doc, or dental care till the last year or so. He has no insurance they are covered by state aid but she with holds that info. He can seek emergency care and they have to see the kids (and have) but he had no access to anything till recently when he won joint custody. It's the lack of pushing the insurance that's ticking me off at BM for pretending they aren't covered, and him for thinking state aid will do anything without being pushed.