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Sick and tired of these kids

Ladyred's picture

Submitted by Ladyred on Sun, 03/27/2016 - 9:52am

I came across this site today looking for help with my evil thoughts about my Husband's adult Daughters...and I no longer feel alone. But I consider my problems with them, my Husband's fault for not standing up for me and himself. Believe me I have tried over the last 15 years but things are only getting worse with the oldest. I can't stand to be around her anymore. The mere sound of her voice sends me into a dark place. I told my Sister yesterday I think I need counseling to get thru this mess.

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Submitted by grace8205 on Sun, 03/27/2016 - 10:18am

At first I was blaming my DH's kid 100% but over time and being on this site I realized that it was mostly my DH and how he handles ( or does not handle) the situation. My DH has never stuck up for me, his kid could swear at me and be disrespectful in my own house to me and he has never done anything or said anything to skid. I can no longer stand to be around skid because of this and because how DH behaves when he is around his kid. Sometimes DH will cry the blues because he wishes that everyone would just be a happy family, but he has no clue that his behavior has ensured that will never happen.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Sun, 03/27/2016 - 5:39pm

My DH wishes that we could all be one happy family - BUT he is very aware of his son's failures, etc. So he never blames me when I want nothing to do with SS30.

DH is always hopeful that "this time" SS30 has grown up and matured into a responsible human being. But he does not pressure me to accept his fantasies.

But part of this scenario is that I had a great life w/o DH. I could easily have a great life without him. DH knows that I am not dependent on him for my "happily ever after life".

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Submitted by TM9366 on Sun, 03/27/2016 - 9:50pm

Wishing you the best, but you may at this point, after 15 years, start to disengage. They are adults, so shouldn't be that difficult to explain to your husband. Or you may just want to do it and not tell anyone due to the disrespect, and I'm sure husband will see you as "poor me, trying to get attention", even though you aren't. No matter what, all good intentions are twisted and eventually you're the bad evil stepmom for absolutely no reason. Dads don't want to see or admit their kids are the way they are. They don't want to admit it's them, cause that reflects on him, it's just easier to blame you.