So here's another current event that has happened (last night), and I'd like to get some feedback on it - this seems to be happening more and more often in my house. SD is with BM this week, so this is entirely a DF vent.

DF works in sales, and his position often requires him to work irregular hours, late hours, and also to entertain clients. I have no issue with this any of this and do everything I can to accomodate his constantly changing schedule. Yesterday morning DF told me he had a meeting planned for the afternoon, and might be late getting home from work. I asked him if I should plan to make dinner, DF said he thought he would be home in time, and we would touch base later in the day to confirm that. Okay, so far so good.

I heard from DF again in the early afternoon, when he told me he WOULD be home for dinner, and we discussed what I would be making (which of course required me to stop at the grocery store on the way home). When I was at the grocery store I received another call from DF, informing me that he and the client had decided they were going to go out to dinner after all. Still no problem. It would have been nice if he had let me know BEFORE I made a special trip to the store because he had requested a specific side dish, but at least I hadn't started cooking yet, we will now have said side dish available in the pantry, and I had to pick up a couple of other things anyway. This was at 5:30, and DF told me he would be home in a couple hours, which he knows (thanks to previous discussions we've had about this issue) to me means two or three, max.

Apparently DF and the client ended up going out after dinner, because around 9:00 he texted me a picture of the drink he was having. No mention of the fact that it was already past the "couple hour" mark, and no indication of when he would be home. At 10:30 I went to bed - still no DF. At 11:30 I received another text from DF, suggesting what he would like to do to me (sexually) when he got home. Now I'm starting to get ticked, because that text woke me up, it was now at least 3 hours past the time that he told me he would be home, AND he seemed to be operating under the misguided notion that I should be awake and eagerly waiting to satisfy him when he did decide to roll in the door. Keep in mind of course that my schedule does not allow the flexibility that DF has (which we have also discussed previously), and I have to get up at 6a.m. for work.

DF got home, drunk, just after 1a.m. I was still awake since I had never fallen back asleep after the 11:30 text. DF could tell I was pissed, and asked what was wrong. I told him that while I understood that part of his job responsibility is to entertain clients, I would like him to have some respect for ME by letting me know that he will be late, keeping in mind that I am a VERY light sleeper and despite the fact that his work day won't be starting today until 10a.m., mine still starts at 7.

DF is now mad at ME and said that he already has a mother, and he doesn't need another one. WTF??? How is expecting your significant other to NOTIFY you when he is going to be almost six hours late unreasonable? It's COMMON COURTESY!!! Am I wrong? Guys, please feel free to chime in here!!!